Why do most parents disapprove of their teenagers piercing?

Answer 1

Well you need to step out of your shoes and into your parents shoes for a bit to understand a few things about parents. Yes they are the hard arsed individuals who make your life difficult, however before you suddenly developed an opinion of your own, they were your providers and protectors. They shielded you from all sorts of nasty stuff and made sure you were fed, bathed, dressed and taken care of when you were sick. They fixed your boo boos and were there to look after you and keep you safe. They tried to give you the best that they could with what they had to work with and didn't have a guild book or instructions to tell them what to do, they had to use there best judgement.

Now you are older and rolling with the punches and taking names, you want to be independent and make your own decisions all be it at the dismay of your parents. You need to keep in mind they know you are growing up, but they are still in care and protect mode, so anything they don't understand kind of scares them off. This is fair enough, you need to give them credit for trying to learn things from your prospective, because they are so use to working from there prospective.

It's not a case of them disapproving of piercings, it's that piercings are the farthest from there minds when it comes to you. As far as they are concerned you should still be playing with your toys in your room or playing with your friends out back. Letting go and understanding that you are growing up is actually quite frightening to parents. It's a really tough thing to cope with, then throw you coming in all pist off that they said no to a piercing, and that can send the folks over the edge. So you doing the growing up thing, the whole "brave new world" and all that can tend to screw your folks up a bit more than they are ready for. Go easy on them, they do love you, it's just a hard step hearing it from your kids and realizing that the kids are growing up in what seems an almost "too fast" time span.

This is where you need to go a bit slower with your excitement and take a little time to slow down and talk to your folks. They aren't stupid, not even close, they just sense and feel your excitement, and what may be excitement to you, seems like a hurried rush for a decision from them. And as always when pushed the parents stand by answer when being rushed is NO* ( * it's a universal parenting skill passed down from generation to generation, nothing personal, but when needed it works ). Pushing (if you haven't noticed it yet) doesn't work when you are trying to get a result from your folks.

Here's what does work, research, written documentation and information about what you want to do (when it comes to piercings any way). Do your home work and find out everything you can about the piercing you want, the benefits and the draw backs as well as the risks involved. This will mean you will need to do good research from reliable websites and local service providers. Once you have learned everything you can then you need to slow it down and have an open discussion with one or both of your folks, explain and provide the written material they can look at. Don't rush, and be ready to give them time to think it over and discuss it between them (this could take a while so don't be in a hurry). Most parents will reply with an almost automatic NO (we covered that earlier, if you recall). But given time and further discussion they will start to look at it a bit more carefully, obviously because it's some thing you want.

Again it comes down to you understanding that they are now realising you are growing up and making good decisions on your own, so as long as you are not asking for something "stupid" (trust me there are some stupid piercings out there that just clearly never last as long as the scars they create do) then they will generally tend to lean toward what you are asking for (in time). As for most parents disapproving of their teenagers piercings, that's not actually the case, it's more still being protective of their teenager. The piercing is generally never really the issue.Jzuk

But do take note of the employment prospect issue - some employers really to not like to see facial metal, especially in jobs that meet the public, such as in shops.