Asked in StressAnger Management
Why do people get angry for no reason?
March 24, 2018 10:10PM
People get angry due to a process known as psychological projection. The human being has a defense mechanism that makes it easy to bury and forget painful and unresolved issues from the past. When there are any forms of non-harmonious feelings, we can almost always trace it back to projection.
Then good news: It's easy to cure by yourself, without a doctor, without medication, without years of therapy, or lifetimes of meditation.
It costs nothing. All you do is list the people who you have been angry with or hurt by or judging of or any person who causes you stress when you think about them.
Step 2: You write down exactly how you feel about them and how you think they SHOULD be.
Step 3: You ask the evaluation questions:
- Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
- Can you absolutely know that it's true? (Yes or no.)
- How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without the thought?
4. You turn it all around and find yourself free of that particular unconscious behavior for the rest of your life.
Caution: This method is only for those who are willing to take full responsibility for what is happening in their lives, bodies, and minds. If you aren't willing to do this, then that is the same as saying "I'm actually quite happy to continue projecting and blaming the whole world rather than growing up."
Occasional anger, directed to productive means can be acceptable; however the key is to recognize wasteful useless anger and stop it before it starts.