Why does a man need you and tell you he cannot let you go if he is married and why can't he let you go if he has her?

Answer 1

I think you see the problem here. This guy wants his cake and eat it too. Please, be the independent person you were before you met this guy (I bet you were independent before love turned you into a bowl of jelly) and kick this guy to the curb. I think it demeans a woman to be with a married man and I couldn't live with myself knowing I was cheating with another woman's husband. It's smart to know that most of what a man says about his wife is not true. She isn't some hang at home beating him with a stick. The truth of the matter is, he cheats and more than likely he has cheated on her before. Say he did leave his wife. Do you honestly think you could base a good relationship on both of you cheating? I highly doubt that one, because you'll always wonder if he's growing weary of you and is cheating on you, and he'll either have his doubts about you or he will be cheating on you. He is telling you, "Sit at home and wait for me to come around so I can have my pleasures, while I enjoy my wife as well, and I want my cake and eat it too!" That's the whole point to why men do this. Don't buy "I'm staying with my wife because she needs me"; "I'm staying with my wife because she's ill," or "I'm staying with my wife because of the kids and when they're a little older I'll leave her." Here's my favorite, "I have to stay with my wife because we are in business together and if I leave her she'll get everything!" Simply not true! It's equally divided unless she owns more stock in that company and I sure hope she does! If you have any self worth please tell this guy to hit the bricks. He is using you. He doesn't have any respect for you. If you enable his behavior then you let yourself down and lose your self respect. Don't become a statistic and date married guys. Get out there and find a nice single guy. Marcy