Why does one have relationship problems?

Answer 1

Every healthy relationship has problems its just the nature of life. No one knows why. Deal with it!

Look at this. A problem is not a problem if you can solve it. It's a problem if you can't solve it. That is why it's called a problem. It is not natural for anyone to have bad problems in a relationship. All problems come from not understanding what happened just before the problem. It's the confusion before the problem that creates it. It's how we handle the confusion that makes it a problem. If one communicates the problem one solves it. If one get angry there is a fight. Problem not solved. If one is fearful one flees away. Problem not solved. And so on.

All people have this..... in our minds we have all the things we agree on that we think is beautiful, pleasing and interesting. These things attract us to it or a person. And likewise, we have in our minds all the things we don't like, what we think is ugly, undesirable and unpleasant. All humans have this in their minds. You decide, you choose. We put it there everyday, day and day out as long as we live. It is what ever gets re-stimulated that causes the argument or fight or solving. All problems need to be solved. That is why we are above all other forms of life. We can think and solve problems to improve our lives. It's the fighting, or running away that ruins us. It becomes another ugly, undesirable and unpleasant thing in our minds. And it always continues to get bigger, not smaller.

Bad problems cause stress. Stress causes illness. It's how we handle the stress that cause health or sickness. Just look at what happened just before one got sick. What frighten the person and they couldn't do anything about it, or continued stress, which brought about the illness.