Why is your mom so mean to you?

Answer 1

Actually, she is just trying to keep you safe.

Only moms who care about their kids or moms with serious mental, emotional, or substance abuse problems are mean. If a mom is mean because of these problems, the child can't really do much to change her and must do the best they can for themselves.

All other mean moms care what happens to their children; care that they will be able to grow up and care for themselves and have the tools to do that. Giving birth to children does not magically give moms the means or the wisdom to do the job, they have to figure it out as they go. All the while they're trying to do that, the whole world is delivering messages that they're doing it wrong; telling them what they should do; attempting to undermine everything they say and do. Meanwhile, there's an equal number of messages directed at their children to lead them off in all directions, and trying to sell them stuff and ideas. Meanwhile, most moms are trying to keep focused on keeping their kids healthy, out of danger, and on a path that will have a successful outcome. And the older their kids get, the more they start thinking for themselves (often in response to those incoming messages) and needing to express their own individuality, well before they're ready to take care of themselves on their own.

Moms are under a lot of pressure with their responsibilities to their children, the outside influences on their children, and their children's lack of understanding for what parents need to do. These are factors that can make anyone mean once in a while.