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You are a loser in life what to do at 31 now?

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August 15, 2008 11:00AM

Here's a little tough love, offered sincerely. Oh, come on. If you have decided after 31 years of observation that you are a loser, then you can relax. There is nothing you can do, so enjoy how life unfolds for you. If on the other hand you are open to possibilities, then hang on to your seat. The Buddha teaches that the source of all pain is desire. I think he meant it quite literally. Any pain at all results from our wanting something else. You have heard the saying 'life is what happens when you are busy making other plans'. Similar idea. You have desired things that have not been beneficial to you or others around you. I do not mean that you looked for the wrong kinds of jobs, or that you had the wrong hopes and desires. I mean that you have, for some reason, looked for proof that you cannot and will not make it. You didn't do this consciously. But you surely did it. Somehow, you got the message early on that the world will make sense to you when you fail. Your question suggests this, and your life is evidence. Your question also suggests that something is awakening in you. Take up your pallet and walk. It doesn't matter if you've spent years in jail, or have been out of work, or are captive to drugs or other illegal activities. It's the message you are obeying that is the issue. Get some hard-core help from a trusted counselor; ask your doctor for referrals if you don't know anyone. Everyone faces bumps and bruises, and sometimes dramatic setbacks in life, but not everyone concludes that these setbacks are a personal message of incompetence. Get the right message, let go of out-dated, useless and harmful desires, get up and walk.