Your mother and father have split up and they want you to chose between them?

* This is very unfair to the children in the family as it's too big a decision for the pre teen or teenager to make as they love both parents. In this case suggest who you feel you would like to live with and make the stipulation you love both of them so you would want to spend some weekends and holidays with the other parent you are not living with. It is possible, in time, that your parents will get back together and if not, then the courts will decide where any children will live ... with the mother (generally), but visitation rights with the father and that is called 'joint custody'.