Surviving the Family Dinner

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Family occasions are a great time to strengthen bonds with family members. Even if your goal is just to get through it gracefully, here are some great ways to survive the family dinner.

Be Prepared

Few things can derail a family occasion like showing up when it’s halfway over. Make sure you know what time to be there, how long it will take you to get there, and what you need to bring. Consider calling whoever is hosting and seeing how you can help. If you are hosting, make a list of everything you will need and make sure you have it all ready. Most families like to pitch in, so consider delegating a few dishes or drinks.

Avoid Disaster From Kids and Pets

Make sure the occasion is appropriate for pets before you bring them. Take along any supplies you will need, such as a leash, crate, and food. If your dog has a habit of jumping on people or tables, consider leaving him at home.

If you will be bringing children, help them prepare for group behavior. Go over any rules - certain rooms that are off-limits, no running or yelling in the house - before arriving. Even if rowdy behavior doesn’t bother you, be considerate of others, especially in small spaces. Each child may want to bring a small bag of toys, games, or art supplies to stay entertained. If there will be opportunity to play outside, games such as Basketball or tag work well.

Prepare for Extended Stays

If you will be an overnight house guest, attempt to be as unobtrusive and helpful as possible. Try to take along everything you will need, and possibly a small gift for your host. Instead of expecting to be waited on, be proactive about finding ways to help out, such as washing dishes and helping prepare food.

Mind Your Manners

Most of us tend to relax our manners a little around family. This is not necessarily a bad thing, just don’t go overboard. Apologize when appropriate, and be considerate about personal space and property.

Prevent Unnecessary Arguments

Avoid ruining a fun occasion by bringing up sore or controversial subjects - if it truly needs to be discussed, save it for a time when the whole family isn’t trying to celebrate together. Acknowledge differing opinions, if appropriate, and move on. If things gets heated, try to diffuse the situation by being calm and respectful, and offer to discuss it at a more appropriate time.

Prepare for Special Holidays

If your family dinner is a birthday or at Christmas, make a list of who you need to get gifts for and try to pick out something that will be well-received. A diet book, for example, can be an insulting gift. Also avoid using the occasion to promote personal causes, religions, or businesses, and focus more on giving something that will communicate that you love your family member as-is.