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I have BPD and I can tell you, very honestly, that we do regret the things we do/say or how we act(ed). It's what I think separates us from being sociopathic. Personally I feel like my life is a constant apology to the people I hurt.
I can only speak for myself, but when I am having an "episode", usually anger, I say and do things that are so mean and so hurtful. I, myself, am aware that I am doing it but I can't control it. The emotions are so overwhelming that I get so consumed when something triggers my outburst that I act before I think.
Once calm, and my emotions have been regulated, (which can take a while for some), I usually go back to the person I fought with, filled with guilt and shame and I apologize.
Personally, when I apologize I know it's just a word and it doesn't take back anything I said or did. But I feel the regret so deeply, and it makes me overwhelmingly sad because I know in most cases I don't deserve forgiveness.
With BPD, especially if you have dealt with someone who has it, you must know it's a cycle. It's not something we can help, without seeking therapeutic help. It's not that we don't TRY because we do try our hardest to NOT have an episode, but our emotions are dysregulated and it's all we've known.
Patience and understanding will help you. Validating their emotions. But just know, when they do something hurtful, they feel regret IMMENSELY.
What else can I help you with?
Does permanent makeup hurt?
As they say on the Internet, your mileage may vary. On some people, it doesn't hurt. Other people would soundly disagree. After all, it is a tattoo. Now this is the thing: it stops hurting shortly after it's done, and it's so worth it.
How bad does a earthquake hurt people?
Anything above 5.9 is okay. 6-10 not so good.
How many people have been hurt or killed by the earthquake in Haiti on January 12 2010?
Around 300,000 people died during the earthquake on January 12th in Haiti, and around 1,000,000 people were injured.
What does every spartan is a brick in the wall mean?
that people do to hurt you emotionally is just another brick in the wall here's the real
Which tattoo spot would hurt more -- behind ear or right below hairline on top of neck?
Neither one will be pleasant. Consider something: Every tattoo that has ever been put on anyone in the 5000-year history of tattooing hurt, and every tattoo that has ever been done stopped hurting very soon after it was done. Would you rather have a tattoo behind your ear or one below your hairline on top of your neck? Then that's the one to get.
What are people called who can hurt or kill others without feeling sorry?
its either crazy or that they have no regret...
You just found out that your son in law has hurt animals and verbally abuses his family Should you be afraid for your daughter?
YES! help her out of the relationship .You'll regret it if you dont and he ever hurt her.
What are some words that mean deplored?
denounce, hurt, regret
Has anyone ever been hurt by an emu?
yes many people have been hurt by emus
What is your biggest regret in life?
Answering this question
Who is the audience of the song hurt?
Christina Aguilera's song is meant for people who have suffered a loss in their life and are filled with hurt and regret. It is a ballad that is referred to people who have lost someone or something in their life. Christina probably has lost someone in her life in which she felt the need to sing this song about
Why do you say things to upset people and then regret what you have said?
You can say things to upset people for many reasons, they hurt you, they made you mad, they said something first, you don't realize it will upset them, you are mad, you are upset, you just aren't thinking, you like to upset people, or many other reasons, but then you regret it because you realize you have upset someone and you did not want to or intend to so you feel regret and remorse for what you said, its very normal it happens to just about everyone!
Does it hurt to get your conch pierced?
I do not believe it does. The nape of your neck and nipple piercings are supposed to be the most painful ever. I have my industrial done and it stung for like 5 seconds and now I forget it is there. PLEASE get it done. You will regret it if you do not try.
After dating someone for a few weeks and then saying things to hurt the guy and then he says you should be friends is there a chance of dating again?
No, you hurt him and he doesn't want that. You should of never hurt him. you will regret it.
When some one really likes you they will never hurt you and if they do so you can see it in their eyes that it hurts them more badly?
Let me put it this way, people who like you will not want to hurt you, and if they do so for whatever reason, they will regret it. Another thing to consider is for what reason they hurt you. For example, parents often punish children, which in the child's eyes "hurts" them, when in reality it is teaching and protecting them. To look at it another way, my girlfriend once pointed out a bad habit of mine, and it hurt me (i am a little prideful that way), but i am glad she did. She knew she would hurt me, but she did not regret it and i did not mind (once i had thought about it).
Is it normal to think about hurting myself?
If you're depressed, yes. I did it and I regret it. Do everything you have to not to hurt yourself though.
Do pads hurt?
No, pads do not hurt. I wear pads and they have never ever hurt me.
