How do you talk yourself out of loving someone that you know that you shouldn't be loving?

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If you really love someone you can't talk yourself out of it. Believe me, I know. Love happens and and if it is true love you can talk to yourself forever and it will not change a thing.

Although we can not talk ourselves out of it, we can accept the fact and move on. It is difficult, but it's doable!

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Our emotions are very fickle. If we fell "in love" once, we can fall in love again. What is love? Well if love is a feeling, then that can easily be removed by marriage I thought I was in love, and then reality kicked in after marriage. What I thought I "loved" was someone who was not who I thought they were.

So I would suggest that you look at the practical rather than the emotional. Emotional love can vanish in the blink of an eye once reality sets in. Is this person a good mate? Do they "love" you? Is the "love" you feel grounded on a solid friendship? If the answer is no, then it is probably not really "love" at all, but an emotion. Find a best friend type, and you'll have a real foundation for love.

While you might not be able to talk yourself out of an emotional "love", time can heal wounds. It could very well be that your emotions may cause you to be in a relationship that is not healthy and will only lead to a troubled life. Don't ask me how I know!

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I am the person who asked this question, and that question was asked a year ago. So now I have got my answer, which is essentially the same as the above two answers.

Romantic love is a feeling, a drive, an emotion, and a projection of ourselves onto that person feeling that s/he satisfies our need to be whole. However, that is not the real love yet. When we know it clearly that this won't work out, we should learn from this experience to understand more of ourselves, and let time to do the work to heal us. Whatever the outcome of a relationship, it is an excellent opportunity for us to grow.