What do you do if your boyfriend won't propose because you are his first long-term girlfriend and he has no point of comparison but doesn't want to lose you?

Answer 1

He should have thought of this a long time ago because you have a right to want to settle down with him and he is simply afraid of commitment, and yes, hasn't had the other experiences of other women, but then again, you probably haven't had other experiences with other men. Did he ever think of that? When I was going with my second husband I had been married and divorced before and he had never been married. We really got along well together. After a couple of years I was like you and decided that if we loved each other then we should commit to each other and get married. I didn't want a big wedding and just a quiet ceremony with a few friends. He bolted! We were split for about 6 months and I was broken-hearted of course. Still, I stuck to my guns because I wasn't having him get all the milk for free without buying the cow. LOL That's exactly what I told him. I moved on, dated, did have some fun, and 6 months later my boyfriend and I found ourselves in the same wedding party. It was a week later that he phoned me to ask me out and I told him not to bother coming back in the hopes of continuing on as we had. Within a few weeks he was on bended knee asking me to marry him and it was "him" that wanted a large chapel wedding and a huge home party to celebrate! LOL I suggest you do what I did because sometimes we don't know how good we have it until it's taken away. Yes, it's a risk, but it's a risk worth taking. You don't want to force someone into marriage and they're miserable over it and in turn making you feel miserable and unloved. Tell him you're moving on and he is free to date whomever he wants, but he's not continuing on the way things are. Good luck hon Marcy