What are the effects of parents who are sociopaths on their preschool children?

Answer 1

y sociopath father sexually abused me at age 2. My mother stated recently that she noticed my behavior change at that time. Yet, she didn't confront him. I do not recall the memory. What I do know is that I cut him off. I disregarded him at almost every level, and never developed a bonding relationship with him. So, my relationships with men went completely undeveloped. I must add, that recently when I confronted my father in front of my mother, she denied saying anything, and then called me crazy, so she was obviously just as much of a sociopath herself. Because I was so young, I'm pretty sure that I just went into self-preservation mode. then, my brother was born, then a close cousin, then another one. They became distractions for my parents. And, the only thing that I have to go off of is the evidence of what happened to me. My parents pretty much left me alone after that. And, I was surrounded my domestic violence in my larger family community as well. Somehow, I learned to truly protect myself. I engaged in the arts. I paid for my own college and I went on to a successful career in New York. BUT, I had never been able to create or hold onto relationships of any kind. Usually if I found a flaw that was strong enough, I was the one who left. What I now know was happening, is that I was looking for a support system of my own. My development insisted upon it. And, these people I kept discarding weren't cutting the mustard. And, at age 35 I had done enough therapy and therapeutic activities that my psyche blew open and all of this old baggage began pouring out. It was traumatic and required more therapy. But, now I have this strong friend-filled support system in place. And, now my development is allowing for real relationship. But, I have a psychologist friend who told me that development does have to proceed in order. and, it always wants to. For more information look up Erik Erikson's stages of development. I backtracked through all of those stages at age 35. and, now my psyche, my life, and my mind are clear. Yes, there were serious bumps and deficiencies from my former era. But, once you clean out the gunk from your psyche, your fears, and traumas, and residue from being that emotional sponge etc, life will begin to reshape itself. ON its own. that's what's beautiful about it. The psyche truly does have an amazing capacity to heal itself. but, you have to be committed to the process. What I can say for sure is that it was my mother and father who needed the development. I found my own.