What to do when your wife tells you she is lesbian?

Answer 1

Well, I suppose it depends on who and what you are. Lots of people do lots of strange things once in college, and the fact that she is comfortable telling you this means that she trusts you enough that you won't make too big a deal out of it, especially as I assume this event didn't exactly happen last week. Who knows how long the poor woman has been trying to handle her "secret" and wondering how you will react. This appears to be an evening of true confessions and I have no idea why wives are suddenly coming out of the woodwork and confessing later in their marriage what they did when they were single. What people do or experience while young is really no one else's business, but what you do when married is a totally different thing. I bet you are no angel and although you may have never slept with the same sex partner there are other things you'd rather not talk about. Sometimes it's better to leave the past in the past. It's the future that counts. Unlike the poster said above, not all men want to see their wife with another woman and video tape them. It can be a turn-off for some men, while a turn-on for others. When you get married it means you are meant to be together and not a threesome or more and I don't care how the above poster takes this comment.

Answer 2

Hopefully you have had a loving relationship and you realize that your wife may have been in an emotional turmoil trying to sort out her feelings. She still loves you. Many couples under the same circumstances can still love each other, obtain a no fault divorce and wish each other the best. If children are involved it is extremely important to maintain a cordial and respectful relationship. You might benefit from some counseling with a marriage (and divorce) counselor who specializes in this type of issue. It is also important for you to respect your wife's right to privacy by not discussing the issue with friends and family right now. It is really up to you how you proceed.