An ex friend is a narcissist I was once his NS so what will be his next move if he is in an affair he feels he can not get out of because he works with her and his job and family could be in jeopardy?

Answer 1

What is an NS? If he is a former friend, why do you take such an interest in the huge mess he and his coworker have engineered for themselves? Watch the drama unfold from a safe distance. If you feel his wife should know what he's up to, send her an anonymous letter. A married cheater is all about keeping the status quo---the spouse staying in the dark, while the affair partner stays compliant, discreet and available at any time. Once the crap hits the fan and the affair comes out (most likely all the coworkers know something is going on) or the other woman threatens to tell the spouse, he will be all out for saving himself. The other woman will be thrown under the bus as he attempts to get back into his wife's good graces. He will toss his affair partner aside, ignore her contacts until he feels it is again safe to be with her. He may accede to his wife's demands that he quit his job or have no contact with the affair partner. He will willingly go along with the idea of a spousal 'united front' against the manipulative homewrecker, in order to avoid his share of the blame. To his spouse, he may deny the affair fully or give varying stories about what exactly went on, how long, etc. He will lay the pursuit and initiation at the feet of the other woman---she led him into the affair. He may turn his own actions onto his wife and act as though she were the one cheating him--of sex, attention or that her insecurities made him slip and have an affair.