Can an abuser change by going to counseling?

Answer 1

No, because, serial abusers will never change. I am currently in the same situation. I am married and not even domestic violent classes help my soon to be ex-husband. I think age has alot to do with it too because, he is 49 years old.

Depending on the personal data and the psychodynamic profile of the abuser, his cultural and social background, age, profession, level of education, and extent of motivation to preserve the relationship. Some busers can definitely be helped and success stories abound.

During my experience of 12 years of mental and physical abuse, regardless of the "so-called" remorse displayed, the abuser must have a sincere believe that what he is doing is wrong. The abuser must make a conscious decision to change his way of thinking and implement that into his way of daily living. Unfortunately, abusers have often avoided owning up to their responsibility of change because tey generally shift the attention to the victim.

Answer 2

The problem is, you can seldom get them to counseling. They are in denial and feel the way they think and feel is the right way and everyone else is wrong. They are such controllers of the environment around them they can't stand the thought of someone taking that control away from them because in their minds, that their "safe place." To me a physical abuser is like a loaded gun ... you can clean it and it works fine for a few uses, but one day, you can try it out and it'll blow your hand off in seconds. Abusers are always time bombs and few ever seek out counseling and if they manage to go, few ever change.

AnswerUsually not. They will actually probably try and you the counselling as another way to control you while looking like the good guy. He may speak the language of improving himself. He may talk about feelings. In reality hes found another outlet to manipulate and con you. Dont buy into the counselling ploy. Kick his sorry but out on the street and if he comes back in a year you will know he really loved you and you will be able to tell if hes really changed. But don't count on it. Abusers get too much satisfaction to change.

Answer 3

That really depends. A sociopath is generally regarded as unchangeable due to a lack of a conscience and normal emotions. Every one of their acts is designed for gaining further control. They have only victims and accomplices, rather than friends and enemies.

Some abusers can change with counseling, and learning to understand why they act the way they do. Unfortunately most don't want to change, and there is little incentive for them to do so.

Answer 4

no they will stay the same because they know they can get AWAY with it i have been in the same place as u so i know