Can you call a married man a good father of 3 if he never stopped his mistress shoving her own son aside because they want time together?

Answer 1

When you use the term "married man" and "mistress", it can be assumed that the married man is cheating on his wife for said mistress. It is strongly believed that to be a good father, you must also be a good man. This is because it gives the child a role model to look up to; someone for the son to model themselves after, and for the daughter to see how a true man should act and how he should treat them.

At the moment, by cheating on his wife, the married man is not showing either of his own children how to behave or what to accept as good treatment.

That aside, however, the issue of his mistresses son is a tricky one. Of course any pair of lovers would want some alone time, but the question stands on how the mother is "pushing aside" her son. Is she spending less time with him than she did when she wasn't dating? That's natural, though it can be very hard on the child at first, and they should be reminded that they are still the loved by the now-dating parent.

Or, is she simply neglecting the son? If the married man is encouraging this neglect (leaving the child in the care of someone else for prolonged periods of time, neglecting to care for basic needs such as feeding, ensuring proper hygiene, helping them academically, ect) than there is something wrong with the situation and both husband and mistress need to back away and focus on their children's needs before their own.

Overall, the whole situation is unhealthy as it is showing the children that cheating is "ok". I would suggest gently revealing to the husband that he is being a bad example for his children and needs to change his actions. Thank you for using Ask.com!