Can you have more than one true love?

Answer 1

No, it is not possible to have more than one true love, because the very phrase rules out that possibility. It is, however, completely possible to "truly love" more than one person (and, of course, by "truly love", I am talking about romantic love, not platonic). Society as a whole seems to like to cling to that notion of one true love, and refuses to be disabused of the idea. Don't be fooled, though...it is certainly possible to romantically love more than one person at a time.

Answer

No, I don't think you can have more than one true love in a lifetime. Once you meet your true love, if you are lucky enough to do so, you will understand there will be only one.

Answer 2

Yes, you can love 2 people at once. But you cannot have a good monogamous relationship with either one while you love them both. True, lasting love is so srtong that it keeps people together long after they should have split. This is normally when this occurs, loving 2 people. You love the one who has been there for you, the good guy, and then you also love the new one, who makes your heart flutter and your knees weak. When you are in a long term relationship these feelings may occur in response to someone new, and if a friendship is involved, then love will surley result. Sometimes one meeets 2 people around the same time, and each has what the other lacks, making them two loves. Whe forced to choose here, one feels that they love them both the same. But that's not true. One and ONLY one is the one.If you are not interested in monogamy and neither are they, then you can have both loves; but one will always be favored over the other, usually rotating. An average person finds one relationship stressful and tough and worth it. They fight, and make up, and disagree, and make love, and have a family, they go on vacations together, they share the most intimate parts of themselves, they bare their souls. They are together through feast and famine, births and deaths around them, they do what it takes to make their loved one smile. Can you give that to 2 people? I think the only limit to how much or how many a person can love is the length of a lifetime. What commonly happens is one man and one woman form a lifelong relationship because that is the accepted normal thing to do, and it is a lot less complicated and the other alternative often leads to jealousy. Any married person will have to admit that they didn't stop being attrated to other people after they were married. It isn't like there is this magic switch that turns off once you are married and you stop noticing other people of the opposite sex. Occasionally married people meet someone new and the new attraction is so strong that it is irresistable, and they fall in love with someone else. They don't just automatically stop loving their spouse when this happens. That is usually the biggest concern they have; "What am I going to do about my wife/husband?" If your feelings are very strong for your spouse, it will typically outweigh any desire you might feel toward someone else. We don't have unlimited time or money or other resources, so we tend to put resources toward that one relationship. If you imagine that you had unlimited time, i.e., lived forever, would you want still want to be with the same person forever and ever? The prospect of having two relationships at the same time is more complicated yet it happens frequently. The person will often hide it from their spouse and this is a crisis when the spouse finds out, and often results in the end of one or both relationships. In the United States and many other places, it is not socially acceptable to be anything but monogamous, but at different times and places in history, it was. Not very long ago, former president Mitterand of France died and his funeral was attended by his two families, his wife and children, and his mistress and children. Don't you think he would say he loved them both? Wouldn't both women say they loved him?

Answer 3

Yes. You can be in love with more than one person at a time. However, if you live in certain places it may be frowned upon. More importantly you need to ask yourself if you are really in love with two people or are you feeling a heightened sexual response to them, which is perfectly normal. I would take the time to get to know both of them more and see what happens. Also, true love is widely misunderstood by many people, it is not good enough to fight for somebody or "do anything for them." You may hear people say they would die for someone but this too means nothing. After all a monkey can die for something. If you want to find out if you are truly in love ask yourself this question. Would you sacrifice the world for them? Would you spit in the face of the gods if they questioned your love? Does your love triumph any force in existence? Are you nothing without that person? The more questions you answer the more you love the person or persons. If you can answer yes to all four then you have true love of the highest level. If you answer yes to all four questions for both people then you really are in love with them both and I say congratulations. Most people never find one person they can have true love with much less two. So go on ahead, give it a try. And good luck. My hopes are with you.

Merged answer:Yes, by feeling love for more than one person. However, I highly recommend that if you are in a monogamous relationship, especially if you're married that you don't fool around with this other person. It will usually lead to sadness for all of you.

On the other hand, some people have non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships, in which everyone is ok with you pursuing both loves at the same time.

Addendum:Good advice, that above, but to elaborate: Yes, you can be in love with many people. Most believe that there is only one love that we have in life. So not true. For those who find their one love and make a life with that person, great, they are blessed. For others, practicalities interfere.

Specifically, and personally, I have been married twice, but I have loved (and still do) four women. My first love I met when I was thirteen. It was true and strong, and I love her still. A long term relationship just never worked out, for reasons I won't go into. I married my second love, and divorced her a year later; it was a matter of survival. She was broken, and I could not fix her; it was an education, but a costly one, and one I would repeat if I had it to do over again - she gave me my first daughter, and two beautiful granddaughters. My third love was a childhood friend. She helped me while I was going through my divorce, but events conspired against us and she was already planning a marriage of her own. I am married to my fourth love, whom has been with me more than 20 years. We have built a life together and will remain together until I die.

I share this to illustrate this: I have loved and still do love four women. I would not give up my life with my wife, nor would I do anything to damage our relationship, but what I feel for the other three is not diminished except in proximity, and does nothing to diminish the love I have for my wife.

Love is like no other emotion, it has no limit and is not contained easily. You feel what you feel. The problem arises when you try to deny love, or any other emotion for that matter - the one similarity; try to shove it down inside or deny it, and it will squeeze out somewhere else...just in ways you can never predict or imagine.

Feel it, examine it, but use caution if you intend to act upon it.

Answer 4

no because you already have one that's why you said one true love

Answer 5

It is if you either suppress the feelings for one person, or let both of them know what the situation is, and all partners know of the others. Cheating is wrong and shouldn't be practiced.