Being emotionally abusive has a lot of factors and reasons and history. Maybe when they were young, they were also abused by their parents or someone they love. So sometimes it's just a result of a bad past or childhood or experience. Loving isn't really a question here. Love will always be there. It's just a matter of misconception.
An emotionally abusive man (or woman) is not capable of true, pure love. The person does this to you because he or she lacks self esteem, as hard as that may seem to understand. Saying he doesn't "love" you anymore is another way for him to emotionally and mentally abuse you.
i would love to know that for myself ive always wondered my ex use to verbally and emotionally and sometimes even physically abuse me
Seek help! Abuse emotionally& physically is harmful to a persons well being. First talk to a friend or close relative, seek counseling then decide whether to work on the relationship or leave. Think of you first, love is Never suppose to hurt!!
Don't be an idiot. Leave. Now.
It is not unusual for women with absent fathers to seek male approval from much older partners. They may also reenter the cycle of abuse by entering into abusive relationships. However, many women with this sort of emotional issue are able to receive help and go on to lead healthy, fulfilling lives.
Most abusers firmly believe that their abusive conduct is proof and indication of deep love. In their thwarted minds, abuse, intimacy, and love are inextricable. The saddest part is that many (but not all) abusers really ARE in love (whatever that means, it's such a subjective term) with their partners, and deep inside are quite horrified by the abuse they inflict.
You should always love your parents. If the abuse is real (and often it is only perceived) you should avoid being alone with them. Abuse should also be reported and verified.These are different then love. You should NEVER stop loving your parents.
These are all signs of abuse and red flags of abusive personality. You won't be able to stop this person, since they see nothing wrong with their behavior. It will only get worse with time. You say you love him. Most abuse victims do love their victims, however they do not know love. Their belief of love is different than what love really is. Love is not jealous, possessive, controlling, demanding, restrictive, and mostly abusive! Love and abuse do not co-exist together. Love also takes responsibility for ones actions, words, and behaviors. Love realizes we are not perfect people, and loves the person anyway beyond their shortcomings. Your partner does not love you this way and deep inside you know something doesn't feel right but you can't point to what it is exactly. Remember, it won't get better with time and you cannot change an abuser or any other person. God Bless Possessiveness is a form of abuse and control.
Usually women do this because it is all they know. Many women will pick partners that are abusive because they've had abusive fathers, etc.
A woman who is in love with another girl. I'm in love with cayleigh
Women stay in abusive relationships for a variety of reasons, it is never that simple. They may believe that they can work through issues with their partner and the abuse will diminish. It is never easy to leave someone when the heart is entangled, just because there is abuse doesn't mean there is not love. There may be a fear of being 'alone', but it is not usually just that that keeps them. Victims of abuse often suffer from high levels of insecurity and low self-confidence which makes it easy for them to be convinced by the abuser that they are at fault for their abusive behaviour. So, often the woman may feel that if she changes her behaviour then the abuse will stop. It can become a cycle that becomes more and more abusive over time and leaves the woman feeling so hopeless that she begins to accept her partners abusive behaviour.Yes, and it also depends on the culture of the woman. In some culture women are not "allowed" or afraid to leave, it could be so that they don't bring shame to their family...a lot of times they stay for "the kids" not realizing that they do more harm to their children when they stay in an abusive relationship. Abusers also chose women that have issues, like insecurity thus making it easier for them to control the victim. Also, in this day in age, the victim is no longer just a woman, it can be a man, in the gay/lesbian community, transgender community. Rich or poor, educated or not, violence exists and I think the cycle can be broken if the children can be taken out of the violent situation in time so that their generation has a chance to make better choices and live different lives.
No. Men who are in love do not abuse the person they are in love with. Women, however, are a different story.