Does a wife ever think about what the ex mistress did with her husband and if so how often?

Answer 1

Every day. Unfortunatley.

ANSWER:

Unfortunately my first year after I discovered his love affairs was hell to me and my children. All I can feel was pain and darkness. It sad really because I have known my husband for almost 23 years and all of a sudden when I asked him why he never had no time for me since he got our of the navy, that's when he decided to joined a dating site. I had given him my love, my heart, my soul and my being, and still not good enough for him.

And all of a sudden, this man I married become passionate, talkative, emotional with the woman he met on a dating site, which surprises me. So I guess the other woman was the lucky one............

Answer 2

• A wife that has been cheated on has heartache and an excellent memory and no wife likes to feel she is not good enough for her husband and then is replaced with another woman. By nature many (not all) women can be catty and generally jealous or nasty to another woman at the best of times. The wife would think about the husband's mistress often because the mistress is the wife's enemy. Many women are warriors of protecting their family (including their husband) their home and security and a 'woman scorned' can be brutal to the mistress and to her husband. The one who should be held accountable is the husband and not the mistress. Wives will often wonder why their husband chose another woman and think 'is she prettier than me'; 'smarter than I am' and end with 'where did I go wrong.' If the husband has only cheated once and is not generally a roamer then he is worth another chance if he has cheated. Often a man fears getting older and wants to capture his youth; wants a younger woman to find him attractive. Some wives are also capable of doing the same thing. It's time for the man and wife to communicate and for the wife to let her husband know she is not going to enable his behavior any longer and if she finds him cheating again he will find himself in divorce court.

ANSWER:

And I will be one of them, my first year was the hardest one, just like a nightmares that will not go away. I can't call myself " scorned" woman when it comes to my husband's mistress. But there's a time that I become obsess on finding out what this woman have that I don't. When my husband says how nice she is and his true feelings for her, that's when I decided to find out her back ground. If the man that I married is fascinated about her, I have the rights to know who she is. After all I didn't know her but my husband do. Yes she did helped my husband destroy my family, but it was my husband who pursue her. This other woman didn't spent her time to find this man that I married so they can become soulmate.

There's a lot of things that helped me to have this 'flashback" and that is my husband. everytime I see him,it will remind me how easy he can give his heart to this woman. Special month and dates was my number one of nighmares. Everytime I see his cell phone, it reminds me how he kept his cell phone away from me, so I wouldn't know who he is talking to. Everytime he leaves for work or just a plain doing erans, it will remind me that before I discovered his love affairs, he made sure that his schedule were planned so he can be with her, esp. on her days off without us knowing what he was doing. Everytime he was seating on his office, it will remind me how he spent his evening talking to her while he was at home with me and our kids. Everytime he is in front of his computer, it will remind me how they exchange email.

I have done a lot of wrong but I can't never give my heart to someone. I can't never compare this man that I married to someone else, it's just wrong and he doesn't deserve that from me. Even if our marriage is going down hills, I can't never betrayed him that way. I can't never wish to have a life with another man because he is good to me, but this man that I married, I will never forget what he told me that day, and I quote, " if the circumstances is different, yes I could see a future with a woman like her." And God was my witness that was the day I died and I know there's no coming back anymore to what I have with him..

There's a lot that will remind me, even now when " flashback comes back, and it always feel like it happen yesterday. To make things worst, the man that I married told his mitress about my worst incident off my life, my rape. But women had different experience, and yet the same pain and betrayal.

Answer 3

It depends on the man. That question cannot really be answered by an outside source. She'll always be in his head, it's just how much he decides to think about her or if things trigger memories of her.

Answer 4

not every time, it depends on what type of person she is, can she forgive easily...

ANSWER:

It depends to the outcome of his affair. If your husband fell in love with his mistress and had a long time relationship with her, and now he is back with you again, it might. The betrayal that you have is very deep and for a while all you can think of is the question " is my husband thinking about the woman he had an affair with that's why his always quite?" But don't let this consume you, because it will not help you health wise. Even you ask your husband, he might tell you that his not. Give yourself time and space, one day you will know that your pain is subsiding. It will take time.

Answer 5

1. well sometimes idk maybe it depends on what kind of person u r f ur a jelus person then maybe yes !!

B:

In the scale of 1-10, nine percent it does. No matter how long the affair is it will stay with the wife. She will never forget it even though she forgave her husband. But it sounds like you are the other woman, if you are, didn't you know the damage that you did by helping her husband betrayed her? If you are, you could have said no to him so that way you will not be blame destroying his family.

Answer 6

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I think that getting over it and the long term effects are the worst. My husband did the same several years ago and I still can't let go of it. I try not to mention it to him because I forgave him for it, but I feel it will always be nagging me in my mind. I feel the best way to try and move beyond it is by talking with other people, essentially creating your own support group, and by educating yourself.

Time will help!

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B:

Yes it does. The worst part will be the first year, everything you do will be haunted of what his mistress did or shared with your husband. It's just like an old movie that keeps rewinding,with no start or ending. It doesn't matter what your husband said or what didn't happen between them, it will stayed in your mind. Most husband will never tell the whole story, because it's for him to keep. as his good memories

You will wonder what his mistress have that you never have,, and why your husband treat his mistress special in his heart. But the worst one is intimacy, you will have this little voice inside you, asking was his mistress very good in bed Is he doing the thing that the two of you do in bed. And if the two of you started to have intimacy, your mind will have this question on how she satisfied your husband and you never did.

This are some dark thought that you will have. But give yourself time, one day it will lessen and your pain will start healing like me.

# I will use my personal experience, and maybe I'm not the only one who have this feelings. From the time that the man I married stop talking to her, I had watch him every time his around. I always have this question lingering in my head, on how much he misses her. Before I discovered their love affair, I noticed he was a change man, happy, his thought was far away, his face looks peaceful and when he comes home at night, he looks happy and relax.

I often wonder how sad he was because the woman that gave him purpose, made him feel needed, inspired him suddenly stop. I also often wonder how good he made her feel as a woman. there's a lot I question when it comes to his best friend and mistress.