How can a man ask his strong and stubborn wife of more than 6 years to be open vulnerable and sensitive so that she can better express love and experience love?

Answer 1

There can be two good reasons why a woman is strong and stubborn. She's either had to come through life on her own steam, or, you haven't been there taking some of the knocks of life along with her. This is one you are going to have to figure out. I get angry myself, as a woman, that men go to work, come home, sit there staring into space, may pop open a beer or have a glass of wine and let a sigh out of them as if God put ALL problems on their very shoulders. Most men never look at their girlfriends or wives and say "Hey, how was your day?" Odd isn't it! Some women not only have to work, they have to come home and cook, clean, look after kids, run the kids here and there, pay bills, etc., and then their husbands actually can't figure out why these women are too tired to have sex. Amazes me every time! I would suggest you sit and talk to your wife. Ask her right out about HER feelings. Sit and really listen! Most men just don't listen and it's the most annoying trait a man has that most woman detest. My attitude is "if you can listen to your boss or clients all day then you can listen and understand what your girlfriend/wife is saying." If you attack your wife on any subject that old trait of self protection is going to come right out and hit you in the face. Just ask her how she feels, what she wants out of life and what she can see for her future. Why don't you (if you can afford it) go on at least a mini holiday (just the two of you) or if you can afford it go somewhere nice for 2 - 3 weeks. Sometimes we just need a rest and get away from the same old scenery and all the frustrations and worries. If you don't ask your wife how she feels, then you are just never going to resolve this problem. If you have done all this and nothing works, then simply say, "Well, you are so unhappy, I don't know what else to do, but I do know one thing .. I'm not sitting around here taking this and I don't want the rest of my life ruined by fighting with you." Either she'll agree to a divorce or you're shock her into realizing she has to work at herself too. Good luck Marcy