How can one tell that a guy really loves them but cant show it?

Answer 1

• Hey, I am a girl and my guess is not any better then any one else but I would say when Ya he wants top be around you and he really talks to you instead of brushing you off. And when he smiles at you just for no reason, and maybe he'll acted nervous.
• Look, I'm a guy and I'll be honest with you. The guy will most likely look at you from time to time, want to be near you, and most of all, he'll want no other guy to be near you.
• the guy that probably fancies you is probably the meanest to you he may try to look cool upfront of his friends or he just wants you to think he don't love you.
• Honestly, from personal experience, love needs friendship as a solid foundation. If he's not comfortable enough to say it or show it, then he doesn't know you enough to 'love' you. If he's just not doing the romantic stuff you want, talk to him and tell him exactly what you want. Communication is key.
• All of the answers above are good answers, but I think that the top one is the best. I am a guy myself. He will look at you at least 5-10 times a day. I am guilty of it.
• i also agree with most of the statements that have been written above. however, lot of the time when a guy is mean to a girl its not because they want to be cool in front of their friends or they don't want the girl to know that they actually like them. its because its the easiest way to make the girl remember them. cos if they do something too romantic it may scare the girl away so instead the guy will do something cruel, so that she'll think about him later when he's not there.
• yeah I'm sorry. I'm a girl. & him treating you like crap will not make me remember him. it makes them just more depressed than they already are about that guy not loving them. i don't think about that guy, i basically just try to block him out so i wont cry. so no i have to disagree with you on that on. sorry.
• Well, I am a girl, and it would be easier to take these responses more seriously if the spelling was correct. Furthermore, I think once guys get into their mid- late 20's, the game needs to stop. If you're in a serious relationship, and he's "mean" to you because he loves you, then he has some form of mental illness. I think that if he really loves you... . you wouldn't be looking for answers as to whether or not he does. Truly loving someone is loving the whole AND particular things about them. If you're the type of person who needs that reminder, and isn't getting it as often as you need, he isn't paying close enough attention to love you properly. I do, however, agree with the communication bit. If you're in this situation, talk to him about it. If he REALLY loves you, it will break his heart that he's neglected to show you that.
• Hey. Well the best way to find out would be to watch the way he is with you and compare that to how he treats other girls. I'm a guy and there was this one chick i liked and what i would do was i would help her with anything, listen to anything she had to say, and i would also ask if there was something bothering her when she didn't seem herself in front of me. I would also do the occasional staring but hey, what guy doesn't stare at a hot chick so the starring thing can be faulty. That's all i have got 4 u.
• I am a girl as well, and I believe that if a boy loves you, he will express it in almost a childish way, unless of course, he is a bit old. But boys from say, 12-19 almost always will tease to get your attention, and the others aren't going into detail of what kind of 'mean'. I mean, if it is harassing and just being a big old jerk all the time, even when he's not in front of his friends, then there has to be something wrong. So, as two people said before, talk to him. Communication helps, and don't be afraid. If you truly love him and he truly loves you he will be willing to talk and make your relationship bloom or keep it going.
• I am 12 and one of the few boys in my grade that isn't a complete jerk to girls. I was just was nice to the girl I liked and was a gentleman (Opening Doors for her, pulling out chairs for her, etc.) and she was the one who asked me out. I basically couldn't believe it, but now I try to be as nice as possible to all girls.
• if he loved you he would show it at least once
• Just to get it out of the way, I'm a guy. Different guys have different personalities, so logic would dictate they'd act differently than others. It all really depends on the type of person he is. From my personal experience, and probably the similar experiences of most (but not all) other guys, he will most definitely show it somehow no matter how discreet it is, such as the above mentioned looking over from time to time just to see the smiling face of the girl he loves. If he's absolutely sure he's truly in love with her, he will never wish any harm on her, he will talk with her and never be judgmental no matter what the topic, and he will defend her unconditionally. He will risk his life to make sure she's okay. He won't even care if you're "just friends," as long as he at least has the "friends" part in it. He will try his best to spend every single minute of the day with her. He will try -- and many times fail, sometimes to the point of seeming a bit creepy -- to act cute or make her giggle or blush, and the times that it gets creepy it's only because he's trying so hard to see it happen. When a guy is truly in love, he will try to impress her and will always think of her even when she's not there, thinking about what he should do the next time he sees her and fantasize on the what-ifs. It may even seem close to an obsession, and it's a shame how many times it can be confused as such and ruin something so meaningful to him. But the most amazing thing that I've noticed in my experience: The thought of sex will be the furthest thing from his mind as long as he has the greatest comfort in the world, the thought of you.
• when someone likes you [from what i know] is basically 5 stages to watch for 1 not looking you in the eyes 2 tries to be near or far away as possible 3 practical jokes 4 staying by your locker at school and finally trying to be near you as much as possible.
• From experience with boys myself, when they love you, they will normally want too be around you a lot, don't like it when family but in, look really unhappy if their parents say anything they may be embarrassed of. And most of them actually act really nice to me. Sometimes, he tries to put his arm around me, or at least sit as close to me as he possibly can. Normally they find it quite hard to talk to you. Also if you mention a thing you like, eg. music, hobbies. They will quite often say i like that too, or oh yeah that's my favorite. They try to show off a load! Sometimes it can get creepy the rest of the time i like it personally! It can be different in different boys, depends what their personalities are like.
• If a guy loves you he will always try to be around you, always try and see you, be there for you, and most of all say he loves you over and over aqain.
• One thing he will try not to do anything to stupid around you or he will try to stand out above the crowd and do something quite odd he will look at you and turn away when you look back and he will not make eye contact to often and when you will try to be serious and have a conversation he wont talk much and wont make to much eve contact
• By the way he acts, the things he says when you're around and behind your back. He always checks upon you. Any little thing that happens to you will worry him. He always misses you. Always wants to be around you, always wants to know that you're safe, you're doing ok. He doesn't want to share you. He eventually builds his world around you.
• Hey by the way I'm a women and if you are asking me if he loves you. He can only answer that question. Listen to this, would you say that if my boyfriends doesn't text me a lot nor he calls me everyday he doesn't love me? If he spends weekends with me sharing warm nights, movie times, long conversations, we cook together, he washes the dishes for me, he take out the trash, he listens to my kids stories and the painful things I went through in the past he doesn't love me or he does? He's made it clear that he needs a friend and he told me he can trust me. He also says that I'm his three serious relationship that he's had. He's had other relationships but like like this tree, which I'm the third now. So can anyone tell me what this is?
• Okay so are you two friends? if you are, he already loves you in some way. It may not be the way you want, but he does. and he will not always be the stereotype what do you want, I'll do it for you guy. he may act in different ways. Show you like him or love him (only if you do) and see his response. or try to have a deep talk with him.
• if a guy made clear his intentions to u from the start that he wants friendship then respect his decision. Maybe he is not ready to commit yet. Eventually if the guy he is ready he will definitely tell you about it if your still the girl of his choice. Whatever it is that both of you are sharing as of the moment, treasure it.
• Well, I'm a girl and I personally think you should stop worrying about this kind of stuff. Not only are you in a relationship with a guy you care about enough to question if he loves you, but you have also made a wonderful friendship. Just enjoy each others company and have as much fun as possible. Another thing to consider is if you have told him that you love him, right? Is it difficult to get those words out because you're afraid of being rejected? Now you know exactly how he feels. Just because he's a guy doesn't mean he has the confidence to always make the first move, he gets nervous and afraid just as much as you do, though men usually try to hide this. However, if your relationship has moved so far down the line and you want things to move further and he's not stepping up, perhaps you should instead. Talking is key to a relationship, you shouldn't be afraid to express your feelings. If your relationship is in its early days, as I said before, just enjoy yourself and don't worry about this yet.
• I'm a girl, and I think people show love in different ways depending on their personality. If your in a relationship, trust that he does love you.
• I'm a girl and from personal experience, i'll say it's probably the stare that says the most. There is this guy who was in my class and all he did was stare at me and every-time I looked, he turned and tried to look like he was not, so if a guy does that, he is probably in love with you.

Answer 2

Always staring at you, smiles around you all the time, tries to talk to you tons, tries to "accidentally" touch your hand as much as possible and if you have a "posse" it makes it real hard for the guy because he has to get through your blockage of friends to tell you how he feels about you and if his friends chuckle or nudge him when you walk by him and lastly (other then complimenting) when you walk by he suddenly stops what he's saying and starts gaping at you. Hope this helped!
just ask

Answer 3

If he says "i love you"; that's generally a sure sign.

However, that's pretty obvious.
If he on the other hand becomes real friendly and asks you out and stuff, you can be pretty sure he likes you.

Love at first sight is rare, so usually this is just him liking you.
HOWEVER, that liking can be shaped into love if you do something about it.

Answer 4

If he won't show it, chances are that he doesn't love you back. But if you want, just go ahead and ask.

I am going through the same thing right now and a lot of times it's based on a number of things- age, how long you have been together, etc. Have you done something in the past to make him feel like he needs to back away? Or MAYBE he feels like he has tried too hard and is waiting for you to put for an effort. Don't try too hard because you don't want to put forth too much effort and look desperate.. Do some sweet things for him and then if things don't change. Tell him how you feel!

Answer 5

Most guys have trouble verbally expressing their feelings as well as have troubles with showing you but will try to do it in their own personal way. You have to pay attention and see things that they may do for you as a gesture or way they may try to show you and also by the way the make you feel in general.

Answer 6

He will start to ignore you, avoid you then after awhile he will ask you out.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

hed probly act really strange around u and be very nervious to talk to u and youd somtimes notice him trying to put his arm around you or hold your hand

Answer 9

Well, if you show no signs of liking him there really is no way he could know that you like him! Show him your interested!