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  1. Make sure she likes you. If you think a girl doesn't like you, asking her to be your girlfriend isn't going to change things. If she's sending you mixed signals, try spending a little extra time with her until you feel confident about how she feels. Keep in mind that you'll never be 100% sure; the point being made here is to not ask too early. If you're only just beginning to get to know her and you immediately ask her to be your girlfriend, she might say no because she doesn't know you well enough, and the resulting awkwardness might ruin your chances of being together.
  2. Plan what you're going to say immediately.' Whether she says 'yes or no, you're going to feel a little uncomfortable, and not know what to do. Think of what you're going to say in response. If she says no, say something like "OK, that's cool. I'll see you around. I'll be at the diner." If she says yes: "What do you think about going to the diner right now?" Rehearse both of the scenarios in your mind or better yet, out loud. You might also think about if you're going to show any affection if she says yes, like giving her a hug or holding her hand.
  3. Freshen your breath. Carry some mints in your pocket and start on one before you even go near her. Your heart will probably be banging in your chest. This is normal. Just try to relax. You'll be looking for the perfect moment and it'll never come. At some point you're just going to have to gather your courage and walk up to her because you don't want to wait anymore.
  4. Find a way to be alone with her. The younger you are, the more difficult this is going to be, but even if you have a little bit of privacy, like when walking home from school or while dancing, it's better than asking her in front of all of your (or her) friends.
  5. Give her a compliment. "You look nice" is a short, simple statement showing that you appreciate the time she put in to her appearance. It is also a good conversational segue after hello. Be sure to smile and make eye contact.
  6. Ask. There are several ways to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, and it's going to depend on how people your age refer to it. For example, "going steady" is an outdated phrase. The following are pretty timeless:
    • "Do you want to go out with me?"
    • "Would you like to go on a date?" If you already told the girl you liked her and she told you she likes you back, then pop the question. Don't wait too long or she'll think you don't like her anymore.

Tips

  • If all of the steps fail, just walk away and act normal. You'll have plenty more chances to try again with another person. Just make sure you learn from your mistakes!
  • About a week before you go in for the "kill" watch age-appropriate movies that can give you other good tips.
  • Making eye contact is a good way to show seriousness, and self-confidence.

Warnings

  • Remember that there are some girls that just aren't going to like you; in fact, there are plenty of girls that may not want a boyfriend at all. Do not let this bring you down. Someone you like better will come along.
  • Don't push things. No one likes being forced into a relationship in which they don't want to get involved.
  • Usually, you only get one shot at this. Occasionally you may get a second shot if the girl likes you but you asked them too soon, but beyond that you will need to move on. Constantly going for the same girl may seem like a sign of your attraction in your mind, but to most girls, it just screams stalker.
  • Popping the question is never a good idea. If she's into you, you don't need to ask the question, and if she's not into you, asking the question will only end badly. It's awkward if it goes wrong, and unnecessary if it's already going well.
  • When and if she does decide to become your girlfriend, don't ignore her. There are too many people in the world that are only interested in a girl for only a short time. This will ultimately result in a breakup. Don't commit unless you are ready to. This is the ultimate step in a relationship.
  • If asking someone out after class, do not say at the beginning: "I was scared of asking you in class so..." This just makes the girl think you are scared to ask her out, and many girls don't like that. They will say "No" even if they wanted to go out with you in the first place.
  • And remember while being shy can get you far, eventually you have to man up and quit being docile. Don't be afraid to tell her exactly what's on your mind because convoluting conversations between her and you doesn't help anybody.
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