How can you fall in love with your husband when you have never loved him?

Answer 1

The following answer presupposes that your partner has not abused you, or been unfaithful, in any way. This is an issue that comes down, in part, to one's own attitude. It all depends on whether you have changed in yourself, your attitude and expectations, or whether you still maintain the same attitude you have always had in your marriage. If you think that, because you have never loved your husband, it cannot happen, then it will not happen. If you start thinking more about your partner instead of yourself, it can happen. It has been shown that, by consciously adopting a positive mindset that you will choose to show affection in physical ways, e.g. by doing little things for your spouse and making only positive comments, a person really can change his or her feelings about his/her spouse. A loveless marriage can be revived. Counselling is highly recommended, as it can focus you to think on the positive. However, you would need to find someone who helps repair marriages, and does not turn you to focus on the "me" in marriage. Avoid thinking "he doesn't do anything for me", and start thinking "what can I do for him?" It can make a positive difference. You need to be prepared to be honest with yourself, and truly evaluate how you can change, not what you would like your partner to do, to change. The articles at the links below may help.