How can you get your boyfriend to marry you?

Answer 1

Ask him to marry you and if he says yes he wil marry you and if he says no becaus he is not ready then wait until he is.To provide another point of view, I started talking to my boyfriend of about 5 years about marriage and he got more distant and then broke up with me saying he wasn't ready. I cut off ALL contact, though he kept trying to stay in touch. No chatting, no calls, no seeing each other, no response at all. After a month he called and he came back saying he was ready and realized what he had given up. We had an adjustment period for a month after the break-up, and when I brought it up again, he said the same thing about being pushed.

Some men hold onto immaturity and fears that are unncessary and an ultimatum lets you know where you stand. In my case it was necessary to know where I stood, to protect myself from a wishy washy person who already provided me heartache once, and to pay attention to my needs instead of him. It can work, it can't, but at the end of the day, if you know what you want, why not speak up! It worked in my case, and he did it happily realizing it was time to grow up. I love him very much. And we are very happy now being married.

I hate to say this, but make the ultimatum. I dated my husband for 5 years, before he finally did. I did have to break up with him though - totally. No calls, no visits, no sex. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make. But once he saw I was serious, he got serious - and we got married. As long as you are available under his terms, your terms will never be met.

I dont think its a good idea to make someone ask you. It should be a natural progession, something both people want. You can do the ultimatum thing if you are that desperate to get married but be prepared to stand your ground and move on if it doesnt work.

You're so right. Give the ultimatum then cut off contact. I did the same with my ex (to decide whether to move in together, not marry, that would have freaked him out), and he didn't contact me at all. He's now looking for other dates. But at least I know where I stand now, and can move on. (Eventually....)

I would not suggest making him, but subtle hinting is perfectly acceptable. So is talking to him about your feelings on the subject. However any time in life when you directly try to make someone do something, it is more likely that you will alienate them, than get what you want.

Talk to him honestly and openly about it. Discuss why getting married is important to you, why you think that the both of you are ready for the commitment, and anything else that you want to get off your chest. You can't coerce someone into doing it. He needs to WANT to get married with you. Give him good reasons to want to. And if he's not ready, then he's not ready. You'll either have to accept it and wait it out, or just move on if its getting to the point where you're waiting longer than what you deem to deem to be acceptable.

Answer 2

This is what I did. I walked up to my boifriend Kalan. Said I have to do something to you. He said what ? I said kiss you and the have you propose to me if I kiss you. I kissed him then he got on 1 knee and proposed to me. That was the best day of my life at school.

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do about it, you cannot rush love. When he is ready and i am sure he is but building up the courage to say it. Don't worry just wait and I'm sure that you will be husband&wife xx

Answer 4

Play hard to get? Like, if he thinks he has you there's no need for him to do it. He needs to see how much he needs you in his life and appreciates and loves you. Maybe take yourself off on a holiday without him so he has a chance to miss you. Whatever you do, dont mention it outright! He could run a mile and feel trapped or forced. He needs to arrrive at the idea all by himself.

Answer 5

You can't and quite frankly you shouldn't want to. It won't turn out well. It's kind of like thinking having a baby or moving house will improve a marriage - always ends in heartache - when / if the time is right for both of you then it will all work out - if you feel you can't or are not willing to wait then he just may not be the one for you and time to move on.

Do what is right for you. One thing I have learned in life is the only one you can change is YOU - trying or wanting to change someone else is just a waste of time and the only one that will get hurt is you.

Best of luck finding what you are looking for and never settle for second best - believe that you are worth the best and nothing less.

Answer 6

Talk about marriage but not obsessively. If all else fails, you propose to him instead.

Answer 7

You can't. It's as much his decision as it is yours.

Answer 8

You cant force marriage on a guy. But you can ask him to know his plans for you.

Answer 9

Just be the best person you can be.