I know as a mother it's difficult for you to see your daughter put up with this behavior from her husband, but when did kids ever listen to their parents? Your daughter is 27 and she needs to find her own way (as hard as I know it is for you.) Unless she can get out of this vicious circle on her own she will never stand on her own two feet.
I hope that you have left your own abusive husband because if you haven't then your daughter will not respect your remarks about her own abusive marriage.
Just sit down casually with her (don't nag) and tell her you are always there for her and she always has home to come back too (if you live alone). Tell her you love her. Many of us love people, but seldom say it enough.
If she continues to come over to visit you with one story after the other about her abusive environment then you are going to have to practice tough love and say, "I love you with all my heart and it hurts me to see you in this abusive relationship, but unless you can step up to the plate and get away from this guy I don't want to hear you whining about it." I know that's a tough one for you, but if you are willing to look and listen to what is going on it will continue to go on. Don't make yourself so available to her and never make yourself an enabler.
Your daughter has a lot of anger built up in her (probably from her father's abusive manner) and has low self-esteem. Remind her that she is part of you too, and she has the strength you do and thousands of other women do. If you feel you need to help in some way then join a group that deals with abuse. They have all types of workshops lined up to help those that have to sit by and watch a loved one suffer from abuse.
If your daughter is physically abused and she should phone you crying and she has any bruises, split lip, blackened eyes, teeth missing or bones broken, you phone the police! The police will come, a woman officer will photograph her injuries and she will receive good medical care. Her husband can have charges laid against him from the police without your daughter having too and the police always do lay charges. The police also help out to place your daughter in a "safe house" and find her some counselling that she needs.
Good luckMarcy
AnswerI think you should maybe ask her to go for coffee. Then let her dump it all out on the table. Let her speak. Listen to her. Let her get it all out as she probably hasn't been heard if shes with an abuser. Then offer clear suggestions and tell her of her good qualities. Let her know that life is too short for a man like that. Then give her Lundy Bancrofts book " Why does he do that, inside the minds of angry and controlling men." It will answer all questions about abusive men and relationships. It is the best book ever written on domestic violence.YES! help her out of the relationship .You'll regret it if you dont and he ever hurt her.
If your teenage daughter is verbally abusive, you can take her to a therapist or even call the police.
He was verbally abusive to his daughter but there's no valid info about him being physically abusive.
No I dont think so, but if he verbally abuses you then maybe its time fo you to get out of the relationship.
Yes, yes it is
Generally a verbally abusive woman has control issues and she will carry them into most relationships. However, there are a few women that are verbally abusive to one or more men, but may meet a man that she is not verbally abusive to as they are better suited for each other.
That's they aren't good for a relationship and certainly not good for a child
I'd say talk to your wife and let her know that she shouldn't allow someone that she gave birth to talk to her like that. And if you and the daughter are close then talk to the daughter and ask her why she chooses to disrespect her own mother like that.
If she's of legal age and wont leave ask the police to help after you have given her notice. If she's a minor you can't kick her out.
You have not mentioned if your daughter wants the help. It's important that she comes to you and ask for help. Try to find out from her if he has just been verbally abused or if he has been physically abusive as well. This means pushing, shoving, slapping, kicking, throwing things at her or the children. Although very painful for you to listen too and the fear of something terrible happening to your daughter and your grandchildren, it is very important you find time to sit down with your daughter and have a heart-to-heart talk. Let her talk and you listen. If you have experienced any abuse in your life then this is the time to pull the magic out of the bag and relate this to your daughter. If not, then you must learn as much as you can about abusive relationship, the law and how best to protect her. If your daughter is agreeable and ready to leave her abusive husband, then please contact your Women's Shelters or Women's Centers. If you find them difficult to find just call your local Mental Health in your area and they will give you the phone numbers. Next, you should accompany your daughter to meet with the counsellor at the Women's Center and she will be asked questions. Women's Centers are there to protect and will lead your daughter and yourself in the right direction to get good help (also legal help.) It is very important to seek legal council and there is good help at Transition Houses for Women and Women's Centers. Your daughter and her children will be protected by these agencies. Be prepared yourself to need a little protection because if her husband flies into rages you will be the first one he will come to trying to find out where your daughter is. God Bless Marcy
Verbally is spelled v-e-r-b-a-l-l-y.
Verbally is an adverb.