How can you help your daughter understand she shouldn't get married if she loves another man?

Answer 1

I really don't understand why this young woman would marry a man she didn't love. Are you sure it's not you that has chosen her mate? Be honest with yourself.

Unfortunately, daughters/sons will often zig, when the parent(s) asks them to zag. There isn't really much you can do. The more you hound her the more you will push her right into the arms of this man you don't feel she loves.

Back off of your daughter for a bit. I know I'm asking a lot of you, but if you don't you will lose a big piece of your daughter by fighting over this with her. Once we are of age and leave home we have to make our own decisions.

I was once where your daughter was and married a young man I thought I loved, but it ended up an abusive relationship and I left after 3 1/2 years. My parents and my friends had warned me and I ceased to listen. I learned a great deal through that experience and a few years later I met and married my wonderful husband I have been married to for 33 years.

Sorry, but you are going to have to "bite the bullet" on this one and just let the cards fall where they will.