How can you tell if someone is not feeling the same chemistry in a relationship as you are feeling?

Answer 1

If you feel like that person is the most important thing in the world, and they do not feel the same way about you. It is easy to mistake friendship for desire, because being friends with someone we desire is what we all seek. But we project our feelings onto the person that we desire, and interpret their actions based on our desire. They often feel entirely different about the relationship. If the other person seeks you out to spend time with you, likes to be alone with you, likes to be close to you, and you do not feel a want for any of those things, then, probably you two are on different wavelengths. Being friends with someone that you desire means respecting their feelings, not pushing them into situations where they will be forced to reject you, and remembering to think about their needs apart from yours. If you can be successful in maintaining a friendship with someone who has feelings for you which are very different then the feelings that you have for them, you are able to do something which very few people have accomplished. But doing so leads to better relationships then most people have, I believe. We have to learn that we cannot posses other people, and make them do our will.