How can you tell if your sister is in a controlling relationship?

Answer 1

A control person is one who will want to control everything. It is ok for a person to control what they do themselves, but when they try to control their friends, or even complete strangers, then we say they are a control freak.

Here are some examples of what a control person will do:-

[1] They tell you not to look at someone.

[2] They tell you not to talk to someone.

[3] They tell you what to eat.

[4] They tell you that you cannot do something.

People often become control-freaks without realizing. Teachers can become control freaks because they get used to telling the students what to do and they forget that they are not in class all the time. It's difficult to deal with a control freak if you are in a relationship, but one way is to say "hey. we did what you wanted the last 10 times so the next 10 times we will do what I want". If they don't agree you can ask them to discuss it, but if they cannot discuss it then I would say they are a jerk and you should just get away from them.

Answer 2

The answer to this really comes from you. If you feel unhappy in this relationship and as if your partner has no real trust in you, then yes, it is probably controlling. However you sometimes may need to make sure you understand the difference between control from your partner or your own paranoia.

For example, if your partner seems to keep trying to control your every move and check up on you unnecessarily, then it might be controlling, but if they take simple interest in what you are doing, then perhaps this is simply a matter of them caring about you. It's up to you to distinguish this difference.

If I were you I would sit down with your partner and talk. Talking is the best way to solve problems, and if you tell them how you're feeling then they can have their own chance to speak. Perhaps they never realised how they are behaving and only you noticed it. But perhaps it was deliberate and in that case, it's your choice.

You should never feel unhappy with your partner, and if you do, it's time to break up. Never feel as if your partner is intimidating you and remember to stand up for yourself.

Answer 3

I think you already think your friend is in a controlling relationship. Don't forget, when you first meet someone you are in love with you drop your girlfriends or buddies like hot potatoes and only have eyes for that guy/girl, but then things come full circle and we start to branch out to our friends again. If this isn't the case, and you see these signs: Your friend is not allowed to have his/her friends over for an evening or at least not without their spouse there. Your friend can't go anywhere without her partner. Your friend can't go anywhere, period! Your friend's spouse always tries to answer the phone or dogs his/her emails. Your friend's spouse doesn't treat his/her friends with respect if they deserve it. Your friend is kept on a tight leash and kept at home, controlled, can't have any freedom and has to answer to his/her spouse constantly. Save your breath if you feel your friend is controlled. They most likely will turn on you. Deep within themselves they know the relationship is not normal, but they are in a mode of denial and like grieving, they have to come to their own terms about their way of life and change it on their own. You could mention it, but don't be surprised if your friend gets angry with you. The best you can do is remain friends, be there when and if they need you and continue on. Keep an eye out for bruises, black eyes, etc. Other than that there is not a thing you can do with the exception of putting your friendship at risk. Good luck Marcy

Answer 4

because she is hard on you, shes most of the time sad or even aggressive