How do get a 4 year old to listen and pay attention to you?

Answer 1

Four Year olds are at a point where they are testing the limits in your relationship. They want to see exactly how far they can go before you punish them. Here are some tips for dealing with an unruly four-year old. Set down ground rules, and tell your four year old the consequences BEFORE they break the rules. Then STICK TO IT. if you let it slide, they will push the limits further and further! NEVER punish them while you are angry. Dragging your child out of a resturaunt to spank them or yelling at them while you are angry will only worsen the situation. Instead, WAIT 10 minutes so you can cool down. Send the child to their room and after you calm down then go in and deal with them firmly. when the punishment is over, don't continue to be angry or bring it up over and over. Act like it never happened until they step out of line again. You need to treat the child firmly, BUT also respectfully. If you hold a grudge, your child will always feel like you are mad. If you still are mad, then get over it...

Answer 2

Stop what you and they are doing, get down so you are face to face and talk in a low voice. Make them repeat what you said or answer you. If there are things to do during the day, talk about it and make a plan in the morning so they feel they are a part of it and not just expected to do it when you say it. If things are prepared it's easier.