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Your wife would want to and deserves to find out the situation from you first, instead of a third party (especially the other woman.) There is no easy way to confess to having an affair; it will most likely cause an emotional division between you and your wife. This is also the time for you to decide what you are committed to--your marriage or the other woman. If you do not want to give up the other woman, you need to do your spouse a favor and leave her. If you want to work on your marriage, you need to be honest with your wife, end the affair and have no contact with the other woman unless it is through your attorney.
Suggest ASAP to the other woman about having a paternity test done in order to establish if you are the father or not. Also, it is to determine if there is an actual pregnancy---it isn't unheard of for the other woman to fake a pregnancy.
If you have children with your spouse, make arrangements for them to visit their grandparents or another family member for a weekend. Then you need to be honest about the whole affair--who the other woman is, your motivations for having the affair, when it started, its duration and her pregnancy. Also be honest about why you are confessing--it seems that you are confessing now because you know that your spouse would have found out.
If you love your spouse and still want to be married to her, you do need to let her know this. Answer her questions, but do not get into specific details about the actual sexual aspects of the affair (positions, etc.). Don't get defensive, angry or judgmental towards her, even when she gets angry and hurt. Expect shock and an emotional reaction. Let her talk and listen to what she says. Give her time and space afterwards.
Take into consideration your wife's health and self esteem at this time--if you feel this would be a crippling emotional blow for her and she has a history of emotional or healthy issues (it would be damaging enough for a healthy person) it is better to seek out a professional marriage counselor, set up an appointment and discuss the situation there. You're in for a rough situation, one that you engineered and willingly took part in.
What else can I help you with?
How do you get someone to admit there pregnant?
TRY ASKING EM that might work
Can you find out if your spouse has a child with someone else even if they don't admit it?
Maybe, if you hire a private detective to investigate!
What do you do when your in love with someone whose in love with you but neither of you will admit it?
you have to admit it to them!!!
What did Pastor Zachery Tims admit?
that he had sin by getting a lady pregnant and he's married
Does the male spouse generally refuse to admit to his affair even when the other spouse caught him?
Yes, the male spouse will often refuse to admit he has been cheating on his wife because they feel guilty and even while having the affair they feel it is wrong so they will lie no matter how much evidence is against them.
Can you tell me 2 reasons as to why someone might admit to having an addiction?
It can be very difficult to get someone to admit that they need treatment for an addiction problem. Unless an addict actually wants help, it is unlikely they will admit they need treatment, or even admit they have a problem.
What to do when you forgot wedding anniversary?
Be honest. Admit that you have made a terrible mistake. Beg for your spouse's forgiveness and do whatever you can to prove to your spouse, via your actions, that although you may have forgotten the date your entered into your marital union, the bonds you feel with your spouse are no less strong.
How do you get help for someone who will not admit they are ill?
Have you tried an intervention?
How do you make someone admit if they are gay?
A person's sexuality can be a very private matter. You can't make someone admit something unless they really want to; nor should you want to.
Pregnant girlfriend and now in love with ex think she feels the same but is not easy to get her to admit it what to do?
maybe its hard for her to admit it because its not true....and as to what u should do, do whatever feels right to you
How can you believe that Annasophia robb really kissed someone in reality?
if someone reorded it or if they admit it then you will know...
Why wont someone admit they are promiscuous?
We don't just admit it. We proclaim it! Even lie about being promiscuous when were not. ANSWER: Because of dignity and pride..
