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If you can't decide then you don't love either because when your in love with someone there is no one else so you're not in love, you're in lust. Being in love is not a two way tie. Either you love one of them or you don't.

AnswerI once read that to work out whether you should marry someone you should imagine life WITHOUT them in 20 years time. I think this would apply here.

Not which can you live with, but which can't you live without?

AnswerYou don't love these men. You are looking out for only yourself and what best suits you even if it hurts others, that is not love. I think you would be doing both these men a huge favour by letting them go, so they can move onto nice women who will be there for them in every way. You sound insecure and I think perhaps you need to focus on getting healthy then you will treat others well. AnswerGo on history. I have the same dillema. It is not about you not being emotionally healthy or not. If you trully hold each one in your heart, and they hold you in theirs, then it can be a difficult choice. Overall however, there has to be just one. The one that makes butterflies come even after its been so long. The one that brings a smile to your face every time anything about them is mentioned or seen. The one that you simply cant imagine losing completely. I think the above suggestion is right. Which one can't you live without? If they love you they will wait. There a budhist saying I heard a while back - "If you love something, let it go free. If it doesn't come back, you never had it. If it does, love it forever." Whichever guy you choose, stick to him, for all its worth.
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