How do you deal with a home wrecker?

Answer 1

This is a question that you can only answer for yourself. There is a more important issue here and that is your relationship. The "homewrecker" may not have known that your spouse was married. If he or she did, then that person shares some of the blame. However, it is unlikely that your cheating spouse believed the homewrecker to be his or her "soulmate." As such, the cheating could have occurred with any number of people.

Do you still love your spouse? If so, then speak to your spouse and try to fix the marriage. This may mean speaking with a marriage counselor, a clergyman or other trusted person. You have to decide if this infidelity is unpardonable and requires a divorce. If not, then you may try to save the marriage.

If you have decided that the marriage is not salvagable, then speak to a divorce attorney right away. You need to know your legal rights. For all you know, the conversation with your divorce attorney may make you reconsider your original decision.

Whatever you do, violence is not the answer. Do not threaten or assault the "homewrecker." This will not help you at all. In fact, it can only harm you.

Answer

By your use of the term 'homewrecker' it is clear that you have not viewed this situation honestly. The only problem you can/should address in this situation is your spouse. Your spouse is the one who strayed. It is not the fault of the other person who is involved. They owe no duty to you. Only your spouse does. You need to ask why your spouse allowed the situation to develop in the first place, what is wrong in your marriage, can it be fixed, do you want to fix it and does your spouse want to fix it. The only person who can remove the other party involved is your spouse. You each need to decide on where you go from here.