How do you feel if your not sure if you still love your wife?

Answer 1

If you even have to ask that question it's kind of obvious that you don't love her! Spend more time with her and show her how much you care. if you don't feel comfortable with her any more you need to tell her how you feel. Communication is really important in a marriage.

If you are newlyweds you might have gotten married to fast. If it is a long term marriage you may be a bit bored. try to spice up your love life. It'll probably help a lot.

Hope I helped!

Answer 2

When one first enters into a relationship, especially if young, they are usually euphoric. Almost high. They spend most of their time concentrating their attention upon the other person and the relationship. This is normal and this period often lasts for about two years. Its the wooing phase.

After about two years the relationship will change. As they spend more time together and they become more secure in the relationship they begin to spend less focus and less attention on the other person. They may marry during this time. The relationship has been secured and so most people will begin to focus on their next priority in life i.e. having a child, buying a house, making more money, etc.... (Everyone has a vision, a dream, of their future together)

While some of us mourn this " loss of romance" period it is actually necessary to preserve the relationship for those very things; Housing, Children which require more security and more finances. If we stayed in the original "All Romance All the Time" mode we would not move on to marriage, securing the relationship, and having children, a house, working etc. We would remain focused on wooing the other person and " meeting their every need" and the relationship would actually die. It would burn out and we physically couldn't survive it.

As we mature we realize that meeting someones "every need" is impossible. We realize they must work to meet some of their own needs, some of the time which requires time from them to focus on how they will accomplish that and thus take time from the spouse and relationship. ( after all their time is finite) The flip side to this phase is that part of our own ego still is nostalgic for All Romance All the Time" feeling we had when we met our spouse. It was fun. It was exciting. It was energizing. the unique thing about that feeling is it wasn't created by our spouse, but by ourselves. We did it. We created. We controlled it. How you will feel is really up to you. They are your feelings and you have control over them. Love is part feeling, but its actually more. It is a choice too.

Now one can accept that they have control over their feelings and accept that life and relationships have seasons...phase if you will. Your relationship is in a different phase/season than when it started and it's natural. You probably still feel love for your wife. There are certain things about her you have come to appreciate or respect. Some things you have learned to tolerate. You still love her, but it feels different now. They thing is it is suppose to and its ok. It doesnt mean that you have to end it...it means its a new season. If you think you no longer love your wife then you CHOOSE to. You can choose to love your wife. The great thing about love is that in the beginning it was all about the other person and in a way it still is. We choose to love someone.

In the beginning it was all about being with them, and then later its all about being there for them.

Answer 3

you will feel sad. you could feel indifferent.