When a woman decides to go ahead with an affair it's a big risk and usually both people will lose out. The man moves on either staying with his wife or go on to some other woman and the woman feels like her soulmate has gone. This is just the chemical reaction in the brain to that losing an exciting partner who catered on your needs. I know it hurts deeply, but I hope you have learned that there are plenty of single guys out there that you are best to stick with and don't get tangled up with married men. It's a waste of your life. The hurt does go away. Get out and start dating or at least go out with with friends and kick up your heels. Don't sit at home brooding over this love affair, because it never was meant to be. I think you are more angry at yourself than at the loss of not seeing him any longer. Women can feel like fools for not seeing this moment come, but many women get caught up in affairs. Now you know ... don't go there anymore! Good luck Marcy focus on your husband and never speak to this man again. Move on in your life. Living in the past won't help you. Live and learn. The more you hold onto this feeling you have for him the more it will eat at you. Move on and live your life. Consider it a good thing as it wouldn't have come to anything but sorrow.
If your lover is available to marry you, you'd get a divorce. If not, it might be lust and not love on their part. Be very sure that your lover is serious before you break up your marriage.
You should find another lover.
Doubt it if he has founded the love of his life there not much you can do
Miep and Jan were very much in love, and were married for over 60 years. They married because they knew they were "right" for each other.
I believe people should be happy and since you were both in love 23 years ago and that love has not gone away (why did it?) then it's unfair of both of you having an affair on your spouses and not coming clean. If you love each other that much then you should be honest to yourselves, your mates, get divorced and marry. True love (if we are lucky to get it) only comes around once. I have no idea why you didn't persue it 23 years ago. Remember, by cheating (and it is cheating) your spouses deserve more honesty and courtesy and, it appears you and your lover are very much in love. So, talk it over with your lover and then come clean with your spouses. It will hurt them, but you are hurting them worse by sneaking around. Marcy
How? maybe it's the same way when a wife finds out that her husband is having an affair. But why do we need to be concern how she feels? Even if its the married man's fault, the mistress is also part of the pain and betrayal. The mistress knows the day she connected with the married man was the start of her life with him without thinking of the wife. And that's my own opinion.
Well just dont friet about it you will find a man of your own that you will get married to and you can get love sick over him
you should talk to the one you love and tell him how you feel. Also, tell him/her if he doesnt love his/her lover that he should talk to her/him about your relasionship with your lover. if he still loves his/ her other lover than maybe you should give him/her time to think things over.
Once you get married, most likely.
Get over it. It is wrong, and you are just headed for trouble.
you not over him go get him back if you still love him
In doing so you may loose a friend, but you can not make someone love you. Talk this over with your good friend.