How do you get over someone you are in love with and remain friends?

Answer 1

BY STAYING VERY BUSY. DO NOT KEEP PICS AND LETTERS AND THINGS THAT REMIND YOU OF THAT PERSON....YOU HAVE TO SEVER THE TIES AND MOVE ON. REGARDLESS OF HOW LONG WE HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP AND THEN BROKE UP...IT IS POOSSIBLE TO GO FORWARD AND THE PAIN OF LOSING THAT PERSON DOES GO AWAY. YOU WILL DETERMINE HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE BY HOW HARD YOU TRY TO HOLD ON TO THE PAST. gOOD LUCK. SHERRI

Answer 2

kill them. Or eat a lot of chocolate, get fat, and become the next Chris Farley.

It can be difficult sometimes to just forget someone whom you really like especially a girlfriend or boyfriend. In fact, it's impossible to just forget them completely but just focus on what's more important to you, that means you. Remember, the person we like the most may not always feel the same way towards us and we must learn to forgive and forget because life continues. There are going to be many other people out there that just wants to brake our heart but still, give your self another chance for you really deserve it. Don't waste your time over someone who's not willing to waste his/her time over you. Also try not to judge the other person for not liking you, after all we all do things for reasons and we can't possibly make them like us. Be fair and true to yourself and don't lose sleep over it and don't even bother to see where you went wrong with the other person. Only you know your qualities and if the other person can see such than he/she is blind. Try to be friends with the person if you feel confortable enough otherwise stay away as much as possible because remember "Time heals every wound". Go out meet new people, and do things you like and trust me, before you know you'll find someone else that appreciates you for who you are. After all, doesn't the best thing comes when we least expect them? Hope this helps!

Answer 3

From the way you asked the question, it is clear that you are a woman, or, are at least, not a man. If you have a broken heart, your first priority is to heal, not concern yourself with staying connected with the person for whom you profess to have a broken heart. It is difficult enough to separate and to do so cleanly and with a minimum of muss and fuss. There are TOO many tempting opportunities to "rekindle" the romance, and start up the relationship when the leaving party has some self-doubts and begins to second guess their decision to leave. This can only lead to more heartache, as the reason WHY the leaving party decided to leave is still waiting in the wings, only to resurface once the pattern plays itself out sufficiently to let the attraction abate once again. Do you REALLY want to go through this time and again? If you are young enough, the answer might actually be "Yes, indeed!" Once you've done it a time or two or three or twenty, then the fantasy of the "true love forever" with this person who keeps leaving me begins to lose some of its gloss, and you begin to wonder if there can ever BE happiness on a long term basis. Once you begin to realize that once someone has decided to leave you, it is only a matter of time before they will come to this conclusion once again, and again. They don't have what it takes yet to stick with someone. Let them practice on their own. Or even with someone else. YOU deserve someone who CAN stay with you! After a suitable period of time alone, you can start to sort out what went wrong, what your part in all the drama was, or might have been, and what your partner's part in the drama was, or might have been. We are ALL responsible, at least partly, for all failures in relationships, and it will do you good to understand the things that just didn't work in your last relationship before you go off and do the same, exact things with another stranger. With a little breathing space, you have a chance to decide to CHANGE something so that you don't have to have an exact, repeat of your "heartbreaking experience". If you realize that it has been several months or years since you've seen your old flame, and you are happily involved with someone else, and IF there are compelling reasons why you shouldn't deprive yourself of the friendship of this person (remember, your new mate will almost certainly feel threatened on at least SOME level by your continuing to associate with an old lover), then you can consider how and when to transform your old relationship into a strictly platonic, or friendly one. It is probably better to just avoid the problem in the first place, and keep a respectful distance. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea, and wanting to feel loved in spite of time and distance from ONE specific person is really not very skillful, given how many thousands of people there are that can feel that friendship with you that you profess to want to continue. Now, just because you broke up with somebody doesn't mean that you have to have a "broken heart". If your reactions are more along the lines of "mild disappointment", then there is probably no particular reason to worry about self-deluding thoughts clouding your judgment, and you could probably continue any friendship that you had BEFORE getting involved with this person without much of a hiccup in the proceedings. The key is your own emotional state. You are in control of them (regardless of how OUT of control you might happen to feel from day to day), and the REAL answer to your question is to simply DECIDE to be over your broken heart, AS THE BREAKUP WAS THE BEST FOR YOUR BELOVED! Since you LOVE them so very much, their BEST INTERESTS are also YOUR best interests, and you feel relatively little pain over their continued happiness. If you are a NORMAL human being, this is NOT going to be ANYTHING like what you actually feel, so don't think that I am trying to feed you a line about how a saint would handle things. This is just what COULD happen under entirely rational thinking, rather than the kind we all indulge in, which happens to have periods of self-pity, sadness over OUR loss, and hurt over being "rejected", no matter how reasonable or well handled the circumstances might have been. The stronger your sense of loss or heartbreak, the less likely that it will do either of you any good to "attempt to remain good friends". I have a tiny suspicion that a woman secretly believes that "if we can stay 'good' friends", then she doesn't have to face any failure on her part. "The relationship still WORKED, we just aren't as close as we once were, but we are GOOD FRIENDS!" Guys often can't understand this insistence on the woman's part, but will readily agree to such a thing, knowing instantly that they have NO interest in remaining friends or anything else, but if it will placate the woman so that she doesn't throw a big scene and go into one of those ugly, clutching, "I can't let go of you" dramas, (and they ARE pathetic for all involved, onlookers included), they (men) think that it is better to lie than to tell the truth. This is unfortunate, as I believe that it is never a good idea to lie about anything, including asking for a phone number of someone you have no interest in ever calling again, simply to avoid watching the hurt on their face when it is clear that you weren't as happy with the dating experience as they might have wished or hoped for. So, what I am saying out of all this, is even if you DO extract a promise from your ex to "remain good friends forever", you probably don't have what you think you have. Few people take the time or trouble to develop a good friendship BEFORE getting involved with someone. To those FEW and FAR between people, I would say, "Yes, if you really enjoyed your friendship for several months or years BEFORE getting involved, and you both agree that you would rather have that friendship back even though you aren't going to be together any longer, then it can make sense to decide to keep the friendship alive. To everybody else, who hopped in the sack before getting to that point, I'd suggest that it would be better to leave your crumbling romantic notions on the floor where they fell. Let them wither away of their own accord, and move on to a better day. Smile one last time, say goodbye lovingly, and mean it. Don't look back. Your sanity is at stake.

Answer 4

I am very sorry for your pain. We all have gone through or will go through it. Although it's wonderful you have remained friends it usually doesn't work, because one or the other is still in love with that other person. You should walk away from this friendship and start going out with friends and perhaps do some traveling if you can and open up your mind to meeting someone else. There is that special someone out there for you. Good luck Marcy

Answer 5

just go find some one else and if there is no one than don't be scared to ask that person out and be with them until u get tired of them