How do you hang around your ex without acting uncomfortable or appearing upset or mad if they are with someone new?

Answer 1

You just do it. Slap a big smile on your face and remember just how strong you are inside. If possible try to stay away from your ex and live your own life. I don't know what your circumstances are, but if you can, get away from the ex and get on with your life. If children are involved then you really have no choice. Remember, he may have a girlfriend, but you will also eventually have someone in your life. Time does heal. I was married for 3 1/2 years the first time, and my ex was abusive verbally and it was getting physical. I finally left and never looked back. Some 20 years later his brother died at the age of 40 and it was a shock when someone phoned and told me. I didn't know my ex brother-in-law's home address (not in the phone book) and I wanted to send a sympathy card and flowers to his wife and kids, so I had to phone my ex. I was nervous, thought he might be overly shocked at hearing from me and when his new wife answered I told her who I was and why I was calling. There was no problem. I talked to my ex and told him how sorry I was to hear about his younger brother. He cried and cried and I was shocked at myself for a feeling I never knew I would ever experience .... I felt sympathy for him and I also felt like I was talking to a friend I hadn't seen in years. It was as if I had never been married to my ex. I was glad I did it, and I have not contacted him since nor has he contacted me. It just gets easier as time goes on and each ex gets on with their lives. Hang in there ... it does get easier. Good luck Marcy YOU DONT. WHEN A NEW RELATIONSHIP STARTS IT WILL TAKE THEIR TIME. U MAY END UP BEING A PROBLEM IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND BEING DUMPED ON AS A MATE TOO. STAY AWAY ITS LIKE PULLING OFF A BAND AID THE LONGER U TAKE TO REMOVE IT FROM U THE MORE IT HURTS. RIP URSELF AWAY DEAL WITH THE (RIDICULOUS AMOUNT) OF PAIN THN GET ON WITH IT I concur. Usually they try to put the new person in your face; be the bigger person and maintain your dignity. Don't give it any power or authority over your feelings. Your ex is nothing more than an ex, so find other activities, get back into dating or just simply hanging out with your friends. Time will heal, expecially if you didn't cause the break-up.