How do you know when a guy is just using you for sex?

Answer 1

I once read that if he only wants to meet you alone at night, then its very possible he's just using you for sex. At some point, I think this is a pretty good guideline... look at the nature of the dates he plans with you: Does he suggest "day-time dates" with you? For example, going for coffee, having lunch, walking through a park, etc... Unless you're a sex-fiend, these dates have a relatively low probability of involving sex so if you're also hanging out in these contexts, he's likely thinking of you for more than just sex. Also, how far in advance does he make plans with you? Does he ask you at least a day in advance if you want to do something? Or does he call you late and ask what you're doing now and then suggest you meet for a bit? (the latter is commonly referred to as a 'booty call':P)

Ask yourself how much energy he is putting into being with you. Does he think of creative things to do together? Does he introduce you to his friends? His family? Does he still want to see you when you're sick? Does he ask questions about you and then remember things you've told him later on? If your answers tend to be no, then its not looking good.

Keep in mind that most guys who are interested in you are also interested in sex with you so you shouldn't be offended if you discover that its on his mind. You just want to find out if its the ONLY thing on his mind... so if you've got some decent, quasi-romantic dates mixed in... I think he's trying to be a decent guy and wants to date the 'whole' you, and not just the bottom half :P When he gets up and goes home just after, or he asks you to go home as he needs his sleep.

---- many ways of knowing most typically id think is, if he's verry touchy (especially on your more private of places) and his speech, if he doesnt mention mention sex to you you may be in the clear, if he tries making any "smooth mooves" like undoing your bra strap its obvious hes trying to get somewhere hahah...

Answer 2

Well, if she/he likes having lots of sex, but doesn't really like doing much else with you - that would be a pretty good sign. Also, if they don't do thoughtful things for you - like remember important dates, or know what kind of things you like to do for fun, etc. Just my opinion - I'm not a relationship counselor or anything.

The only time they call you is to have sex. They don't want to go do anything with you unless its sexually related. When you too are together he/she wants to have sex in the first five minutes, doesnt want to talk or watch a movie or whatever.

Right after sex they have to leave....

Tell them the next time you're together that you don't feel like it or say "Let's go do something" and see how they re-act.

Another sign is when they only call you when their drunk.

-If he has it with you really fast, then does it none stop and doesn't introduce you to his friends or family, and is only interested in doing it when he sees you.

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I had a huge crush on this guy. We always talked and hung out. Like, at night, he picks me up and we go to his house. Then, we would hang out at the pool and all. We talked about everything. But most of the time, he wanted to do phone sex, he talked about how horny he is. And always wanted sex from me. I told him I liked him a lot but he said we are only friends. I was like yeah I know but couldn't we be more. He said no because he liked someone else. He told me he had a girlfriend a few days after that and I stopped talking to him. Then a month later they broke up and he called me asking if I wanted to come over and have sex. I was like no. I'm not a sex toy. So, basically, hun, the guy talks about sex alot. Says you're only friends after you have sex, calling you when they are horny and also when they just get out of a relationship. They don't look for anything really to come out of it. So, if a guy is doing this to you, stop it before it gets worse.

Answer 3

Okay, this answer is coming from a guy. Now being a guy, I think I know a little about this subject and am the best person to answer. 1. If he only calls you when he wants to have sex. 2. If when you are done having sex he leaves and doesn't want to cuddle or talk. 3. If when you have sex there is no foreplay and he goes straight to the point and finishes, and that's that. 4. If he doesn't really treat you nice and you feel used. If you feel used, well that pretty much answers it all.

AnswerI am a girl and this is my opinion on how to tell when a guy is using you for sex. If you have had sex with this person and he tells you he loves you within 2 months after you first start dating then he is probably just trying to get in your pants, and the only time you guys have sex is when he wants to. I also think that a guy was just using you if you guys break up and he starts seeing someone else within 2 weeks. That is my point of view. Answerokay this is also from a girls point. if you feel that's all he wants put him through the test. if he calls and says hey you want to do it but you don't say anything and his voice becomes enraged you know he is using you

Answer 4

that's easy he/she will always do something to try get you into that sex mood, for instance when you kiss them on the lips they might start kissing you even longer and kiss your neck. don't let your self get trapped.