How do you stop fighting in a relationship?

Answer 1

Life is really much simpler than most people make it out to be. The big word here is COMMUNICATION! All couples will have an argument off and on, but when it's constant something is wrong and that something is usually two people fighting for control in the relationship. You need to sit down with your boyfriend/husband and communicate. Ask him what bothers him about you and listen! You may not like what he has to say, but I'd advise you to listen because there could be character flaws in your personality that could be rectified. Then you tell him what irritates you about him and the same applies to him. We should be learning from each other in a relationship. Relationships are always going to have some bumpy patches, but, with good communication skills and brutal honesty the relationship can become healthy and a good one.

Answer 2

Well, if you are writing this it might mean that you are having problems. If you are, I hope this will help. You see, fighting is quite normal, because people will argue, then reconcile, especially friends. Firstly, and most importantly if you want to stop fighting is to stop fighting first, yourself. It's the first step. It may seem a little unfair, but once you do that, it will be easier to talk.

Then you can try talking. Explain how you felt when you were fighting, and how much you want it to be normal again. If you can't, or he/she doesn't listen, give the person some time and think about it yourself: what caused you to fight? Did you do anything wrong? After you know what had happened clearly, explain to him/her nicely-how you or the person you were fighting with were wrong. Maybe you both did wrong?

Then it will be easier for listening. Give time for the other person and listen to their explanation's. If it is a misunderstanding, it might take some time to clear out. You could get someone to talk to the person you're arguing with as he/she might listen to them.

I hope that if you have any trouble, don't give up if you really, really want to reconcile. Be patient. Hopefully, you will be OK again.