How do you tell if your boyfriend is just jealous or controlling?

Answer 1

AnswerTypical signs would be: he would isolate you from your friends/family, being critical on your behavior and maybe the way how you dress, comments on your friends, easily get fed up when your attitude/behavior isn't met his expectation.

He would also expect you to be there for him every minute. He wants all of your attention, all the time. He would not understand that you have other priorities in your life and other people you care about. He basically wants to be the center of your existence.

I went out with a controlling boyfriend for one year, so I know first hand of the signs that you should run away from (if only I did sooner!) The Top Ten signs you are with a controlling man: Ladies beware!!!!

1) He wants to see you only at his convenience and doesn't want you around at certain parties, vacations, holidays with him.

2) He is only able to have a one sided relationship and urges you to spend time with his friends and family, but has no desire to delve into your own life.

3) Give and take is not in his vocabulary.

4) He is only happy doing things that he wants to do and will dismiss any activities that you suggest.

5) He only wants to stay at his place and doesn't want to put the effort to go to your place for once (even if you live a town away).

6) He puts you down and doesn't accept you for your wonderful self to make himself feel superior and more controlling.

7)He will never say "I'm sorry" if he has said or done something to hurt you and does not acknowledge or take responsibility for his actions/words. )

8) He constantly tells you things that you are doing "wrong". Nothing you do pleases him and you feel constantly judged, unappreciated, and unloved. For example, I was told once that I was using too many knives when cooking and that he was mad because it "was taking away our quality time by washing them." As a result, you feel as if every move you make is so-called, wrong in his book.

9) He only kisses you when he feels like it and denies any loving behavior from you whenever he wants to.

10) He takes out his anger on you whenever he is unhappy (which is almost all the time).

Ladies, if you are with someone who has even some of these characteristics, please run away, you deserve to be with someone who loves your "whole self." You should not feel as if you are walking on eggshells all the time. People who are controlling are not fully capable of the concept of just "being" with you. They have not let go of anger from the past and have not done the proper work on themselves to make them a better person and boyfriend. If he was initially a true gentleman in the beginning of the relationship and you are still waiting for the "old, sweet" boyfriend to emerge, he won't, trust me! Please note: Women as well as men can be controlling, I am just answering this particular post.

Answer 2

Some controlling men can be very suttle at first, but here are some signs: Telling you what to wear; Ordering your dinner when out in a restaurant; Tell YOU where you are going for the evening; Putting you down when you want to go somewhere special and he refuses to go; Demanding where you are at all times; Annoyed you are going out with girlfriends; Annoyed if you don't want to see him one night; Doesn't like you visiting your parents; Doesn't really want to meet your friends; Never introduces you to your friends. These are but a few signs, but they will give you some idea. If he is doing any of these things and it annoys YOU, then you let him know in no uncertain terms you aren't the kind of woman to put up with it. See what he does after that. Good luck Marcy

Answer 3

Nine signs of a controlling boyfriend is:

1) Always being by your side

2)You do what he likes

3)He always asks you to do stuff for him

4)He doesn't use his manners "Thank you"

5)He is always right

6)He snoops on you always has to know what your doing

7)He puts you down and makes you feel insecure

8)He doesn't like you to have fun without him

9)You know longer know what you actually want

Answer 4

Usually jealous turns into controlling. It is very tricky so I would watch it if I were you. However, to answer you're question more directly: If your boyfriend is taking action on the jealousy by trying to control what you do, who you talk to etc., then he is being controlling.

Answer 5

The signs that a person is a control freak can include OCD disorder, always having to have the last word, or always doing things in a specific order.

Answer 6

When the guy is always asking where you are and if he tells you what to do and you do it, will make him feel like he has power.

Answer 7

he starts to act abusive