How does a narcissistic mother effect her male children?

Answer 1

One Person's Experience

The closest adult family members feel dejected and disrespected after interacting with the narcissist, who remains emotionally a child even when reaching adulthood. The family members experience a range of disparate symptoms that they cannot explain or understand.

a) The narcissist leaves you with a feeling of guilt. The narcissist thrives by making you feel guilty and inadequate.

b) The narcissist is like a parasite who clings on to you and keeps asking for physical/emotional/material things to keep his needs fulfilled and you get nothing in return. You stop even thinking that you are entitled to something in return.

c) You feel emotionally drained and want to get away as far as possible. At this point in time, you may not even know that the narcissist is the cause of this.

d) You stop spending any time with the narcissist. You start keeping different hours/schedules so your need for interacting with him is minimized.

e) You start thinking that you are going crazy and becoming a "bad" person. It starts affecting your relation with other (normal) people.

f) During this time, the narcissist has perhaps made you look like the villain in the family.

g) Most of the family members may not have heard of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and may typically not tell each other about their experiences with the narcissist. They tend to feel that the narcissist is just high-strung. Or, they ignore the behavior not knowing what to do and not wanting to take the effort to find out what to do.

Once all the family members get together the problem and the person that has it would have been identified. Till this time, it would seem like a madhouse without anyone being able to sense exactly what or who is wrong.

Answer 2

A narcissistic mother will definitely affect her male children. She will make her children extremely dependent on them even if they have their own families. The male children will always contact them whenever they want to make certain decisions.

Answer 3

ANSWER:

Depends if they're the oldest child, or one of the others.

I can only speak for myself (the second of two children) I was largely written-off as a bad egg in favour for my older sibling. I still was ambitious though, but had almost every success big or small ignored or mocked, but the successes of my sibling or those of my peers rubbed in my face. My older sibling turned on me too, in their role as the 'golden child'. Long term results of that for me were to be very, very defensive of any criticism from anybody (even minor), over-reliance on my friends for emotional feedback, clinical depression and alcohol dependence. In many ways many of the symptoms of Narcissism itself, but with the difference that I did actually care about other people and tried to right any problems I caused (quite a few) and self-improve. Upon accidentally discovering the existence of NPD as a disease via a magazine article, I was able to research further and identify with many other NPD victims and this went a long way to helping understand what I'd been through wasn't my fault. Life's a lot calmer now. I have good contact with my mother for my father's sake, but no emotional closeness (there never was from her anyway, so in many ways it's fairly balanced for once).

In all fairness, my older sibling, despite being the 'favourite' had a far worse time of it, they spent much longer supporting their mother's sick whimsy, a horrid and fruitless task.