How does one deal with an insecure man?

Answer 1

As a guy, don't waste your time, move on. It would be like doing body work on an old car that doesn't have value.

Well, if you love the man for being him, consider what makes him insecure. There are types of insecure men. The man who is not so insecure but knows when he is talking beyond the limits of people around them. In this case he becomes insecure when he has to stop and no-one wants elaboration, so try listening and asking him questions.

Next there is the man that is so used to people taking the drop your losses approach as mentioned before. It comes down to the partner, if you love him then nurture him.

Remember, people are creatures of self fulfillment. Consider yourself, what do you do that makes you happy, what hints do you drop for him to pick up on. All people do it. For example. Does he make you a cup of coffee in the morning because he knows you like it? If he started that routine then obviously it him trying to show you what he likes. Perhaps focus on these hints and he will begin to open up to you even more. == ==

Answer 2

An insecure man is dealt with in the same manner as one deals with an insecure woman. In each case the insecure individual needs to be presented with the irrationality of the things they are saying and/or doing.

This may or may not lead to their adjusting their words or actions, because their insecurity exists in the first place because of a weakness in his or her mind which he or she is unable to strengthen. The logical presentation of their fault is likely to be invisible to their conscious mind.

But ultimately, the person's insecurity will cease to be a burden to themselves and to those they encounter only when their pretense is revealed and the discomfort of embarassment drives them to perform the difficult mental growth they have avoided.