the typically part depends on the frequency of the abuse.
If you realize that you are being abusive, whether verbally or physically, it is imperative that you seek help from a professional to find out why you are,, you are already on your way by admitting to it.
Many men in abusive relationships, are the instigators. They like to pick fights, they will keep "poking" at you till you snap and get mad at you and then blame you for the fight. This victim blaming keeps wives in the marriage. If you are being abused it is not your fault and you need to leave the relationship.
He doesn't realize what he has.
Depends how you define "relationship". Friends and lovers never batter each other. Codependence is not love. If the abuser realizes his problem and seeks help in getting control of his anger and actively seeks to prove to you he is open to resolving the problem and you seek help to overcome your fears that have inevitably had an effect on your perception and feelings for him. if both take action to work on these areas of the relationship it can be salvaged. But realize it will not be easy for either of you.
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When you finally realize that the one you dream of does not want you.
first please realize that all men are not abusive. and second please realize that some women are abusive, although this is not as common. most abusers abuse because they had problems when they were younger. maybe they were teased, or beaten, or had a near death experience. some of them where just pushed to the edge and found a release. now others, however, just do it for the joy, and the pain it brings to them and the other person. its hard for anyone to truly understand what is going on in their heads.
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Communicating with your abuser is an art form. It is called "walking on eggshells". If you think the relationship is getting emotionally abusive no need to talk...best to walk and do it fast. Once the abuse begins in the cycle, it is hard to get out. The longer the cycle has been spinning the more difficult to leave.
You have to look at them and realize that they can never abuse you again. It's going to hurt later, because at some point you're going to realize the hope that they could have been a great parent might also be gone. You can be sad. You can be angry. Just try to realize that you're safe, and that it'll be okay.