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Maybe the question should read how much should you know about someone before marrying them. There are so many factors that go into marriage that it's impossible to give a "one size fits all" day/month/year answer to that. In any marriage if you have 2 people who are not looking to change the other person but rather change themselves to become whatever will work in their marriage...it will succeed. So you need to know enough about the other persons values, finanacial habits, and daily living to know whether you can change "yourself" and become compatible with them and if they also have the attitude that they want to become whatever the marriage will require. No marriage will ever work with selfish, prideful attitudes. So make sure you keep these areas to a level you can live with.
Psychologists say the typical infatuation (or "lust") lasts 3-18 months. So,if a total of 19 or more months elapses between meeting and wedding, there's a better chance it's really love.
It is of my observation and belief that marriage goes beyond love. The love of another is not enough to make a marriage work. Both parties must be ready for the long-term commitment of marriage in all aspects, financially, emotionally and in maturity. I thing young people need to know each other longer than some older folks who may have all the necessary qualifications to make this decision without the several years dedicated to getting to know one another.
The main problem I see is amongst the younger generation who use 'marriage' as a kind of committed relationship and divorce is just as easy. When teens and young 20-somethings (even 30-somethings in some cases) are not emotionally stable and indepdendent how can they commit to something as serious as marriage? Marriage is not just about love.. even legally it is a union of economic stature that can mess with you if you need to get divorced. A marriage is an investment as much as a romantic commitment.
Just for the record, I'm 23 years old so I'm not an ageist older person trouncing on young folk... I'm a young folk who's screaming for my generation to PLEASE stop getting hitched because you think your boy is 'swell' or you want to stake your claim in that pretty, flirtatious chick.
Last check on when to get married. If you have ANY doubt WHATSOEVER, wait. If there is a single shread of doubt in your head just stay a committed couple. Live together, sleep together, eat together... but wait on marriage until you're certain.
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How long should a refrigerator sit after moving before plugging it in?
A refrigerator should sit upright for at least 24 hours after moving before plugging it in to allow the refrigerant to settle.
If you are moving should you buy your guinea-pigs before or after you move?
after
Where should you ask someone out?
do it when ever you are together and where you guys are most happy together.
Should someone send out change of address cards if they are moving?
Someone who is moving soon should, indeed, send out change of address cards. It's extremely important to send these out when a person who is moving knows the location of their next place and wishes others to be informed of where they are going to live.
If you carry passengers in your boat you should have a safety discussion before departing. What topics should be included in the discussion in boating?
Moving around in the boat Standing in the boat When someone falls overboard
When should you move in with someone?
If you are in an emotional relationship with them or are moving into a flat with several people.
How long should I let Mod Podge dry before moving on to the next step of my project?
You should let Mod Podge dry for about 15-20 minutes before moving on to the next step of your project.
When someone leaves you for someone else dose this count as a rebound relationship for them?
Not necessarily. If they left you for someone else that would indicate they are just moving on - as you should.
How long should I wait before plugging in my fridge after moving it?
After moving your fridge, it is recommended to wait at least 4 hours before plugging it in to allow the refrigerant to settle.
What is too soon to live together?
Whether or not it is too soon to live together is different for every couple. One should be wary of moving in together too soon in a relationship though, as the added stresses of constant contact could make the relationship more difficult. Before living together, a couple should be very comfortable with each other, and should discuss finances, responsibilities, and future life plans.
My rights to my boyfriend's home?
You are a guest in someone else's home and they are allowed to set any rules they wish, as long as they are legal and binding. If moving in with someone, a set of ground rules should be established long before anyone actually moves anything in.
What should every passenger do in a car before it starts moving?
Buckle their seatbelts!
