How long should you wait to get back with an ex?

Answer 1

It all depends on the situation. If he's worth it, be very careful and play your cards right. If your serious about getting someone back, you have to give it the time/space and attention it needs. Think it out first so you don't do anything dumb. Don't rush it, don't badger him and don't plead, it's very unattractive and needy. I am in the same situation and I know it's going to probably take 2 years before I can approach it again. He's Mr. Right for me though so I am willing to do what I have too for now and will try again when the time is right. My guy needed his space, space to sow his wild oats or he wouldn't be good for me or anyone else for that matter until he did. He married the only woman he ever dated so I was the first one after his 18 year relationship/marriage with her. He says he still loves me and that he can't weigh me out for the future. I guess that's what gives me hope. He also told me he's very attracted to me and that he fell harder and faster for me than his wife. So there's always hope.........no matter what anyone else tells you. When you think the time is right. For whatever the reason was that you two broke up in the first place, just make sure that, that person won't do whatever they did again. I guess it always depends on the situation. I hope things go well for you though. Think it over, and follow your heart!

Answer 2

It depends on a lot of things like who broke up with who...how long you were together...what the circumstances were...etc. Usually the person who did the dumping gets over the break-up sooner than the person that got dumped. Why? Because the dumper had more time to think about things and to come to the conclusion that it wasn't working out. Sometimes it takes the dumpee a bit longer to realize that things weren't meant to be.

When I was going through a rough time, a good friend put it to me like this: "You'll never get over it. You may move on but you'll never get over it...and that's perfectly normal." Once I heard that and thought about it, I felt so much better. You might never really get over the break-up...and that's ok. But you definitely need to learn to move on and to cope and exist in your life without her. Girl? What girl? I was dating a girl? Oh, yeah! Seriously, it depends on lots of things. How long had they been dating? Was he really in love with her? Is he active in lots of things that keep him busy or has he got lots of spare time to think about her? Do they live close or are they in a long distance relationship?

Answer 3

First think about why you broke up. Did you dump her or was it the other way around? If it was for something petty and small, you need to talk and apologise, then see if you still want to be together. If it was something major, you probably need to move on.

There is no rule saying how long you should wait, if you want her back immediately you should be working on it right from the start. What you have to do is prove you are worth taking back. By this I mean you should show the best side of yourself by looking after health fitness and your appearance. You should also be out and about having fun with friends and family. When you do see her you should be friendly and helpful without overdoing it. If special occasions come up like birthdays make sure you send her a card or a present, or just ring her to wish her happy birthday. If it is meant to happen it will but not without some effort from you.

Answer 4

ex-wife, ex-girlfriend...big difference. kids involved...

Answer 5

you shouldn't, just move and if he comes back and you still like him than take em back

Answer 6

There really is no set amount of time. Sometimes it's best not to have your ex "come back" ever. There's usually a reason that things didn't work out.

Answer 7

Well if you dated her and really do care about her you would know. Think about it would she want you back, and if you'd done something wrong would she take you back.