I am lovesick I am achy and sad and I really want to tell this guy I like him please help?

Answer 1

I just went through this not that long ago, too, but i think i know what will help you. This is what happened to me.

Sometime in around November of last year i got this huge crush on one of my guy friends. My feelings for him have been growing ever since then, and soon i realized that i was actually in love. When i was hanging out with him, i would be really happy, but i found that the more i felt for him, the worse i felt. On the days when i knew for a fact that i wouldn't get to see him, it felt pointless to get up and go to school. It was getting really bad. During the last week or so of school, i wrote a note to him asking him out, but i never got up the courage to give it to him. Then school let out. Over the summer, i hardly got to see him at all, and it was almost like i was trying to forget him to feel better, but i would still think about him every day. Then, in the last month of summer, i got to see him again, once a week. During these days, we would get to talking, and we became closer friends than ever. It got to the point where, after school started, on the one day a week where my group of friends would all hang out after school, it would always end up with the two of us going off on our own to talk. Eventually, it got to the point where the pain and longing was so great that i decided that it would be better to tell him and risk rejection than live the rest of my life not knowing, so i wrote him a note and gave it to him on the way to our separate busses. Life continued on as it had been, and it took about three weeks to a month before he reacted to it at all. When he did, he said that he would rather just remain friends. I was heartbroken by this, but we remained very close, spending time alone together as usual, and exactly two weeks after he separated me from the group again and admitted that he really liked me and wanted to go out with me, he had just rejected me out of fear for our friendship. We have been going out since October 8th and it's been going great.

My suggestion to you is to think over your relationship with him. Talk to him as much as you can and try to be close to him. Decide what technique to tell him would be best for you, but if you're like i was and you're afraid, you may want to write him a note. If you're still afraid that you're going to chicken out of giving him the note, write it and then tell one of your friends that you are going to give it to him. I found that doing this helps you go through with it because more than just you will know if you don't. After you give him the note, just leave him be. Treat him the same as you always have before, because he will probably need some time to think about it and guys don't feel any more confident about this kind of thing than girls do. Don't rush him. Eventually, he will get back to you. If he says yes, then there you go. If he says no, realize that he may not be sure. Even if he gives you a solid, for-sure no, you can still be friends with him. And if that happens, i realize that that will hurt. That was probably the worst night of my life. But you have to realize that if he really matters to you, what he wants will make you happy, because you wou;dn't want to make him date someone that he doesn't have feelings for.

Just think of this--if the answer is no, wouldn't you rather know that now and be able to get on with your life than live the next few years wondering what could have been and trailing after some guy you have no chance with? and if the answer's yes, you could be dating right now! It might seem like a scary risk now, but trust me, it's such an amazing and beautiful feeling that you will experience after you hand that note over. It will be the feeling of freedom.