If your ex breaks up with you but still says they really care about you and are just confused but never call you to see how you're doing does it mean that it was all a lie?

Answer 1

It usually doesn't mean everything has been a lie. If they've broken up with you, and do not call. That is them distancing themselves from you to get over that level you two were once on before the break up. Notice casual friends do not necessarily call each other all of the time. This is his perspective. He cares about you, and loves you. But, possibly not in a romantic manner. He may just still care and love you as an individual and a friend. But not a lover. By all means, don't take this as something terrible. Don't obsess over this either. Take it for what it is, and respect his views. Doesn't mean you can't call every once and a while to say hello. By all means pick up the phone and call him, but not all of the time. This is about breathing space and going back a few levels from being so close to just being friends. Which on a personal level, is difficult as hell. But, it can happen with time and self-healing. Evaluate yourself, and remember you were still breathing and kicking before you met him. And you can still do the same afterwards. It's just one of life's challenges. You live, get hurt and learn. I wish you the best. -Erin