Is beating wives allowed in Islam?

Answer 1

Some do, just as some Christians do, some Jews do, etc. However, the vast majority of Muslims, or any other people, do not. Most religions, if not all, forbid beating others. It is also common sense.

Answer 2

Cheating is strictly forbidden to be practiced by Muslims. However, A Muslim man can say beautiful words to his wife as she is the most beautiful wife in the world or she is the nest woman in the world, ... etc. These words can make their life warmer and happier.

Answer 3

Answer A

Islam does not allow at all beating wives by the sense of real beating. The Arabic word in Quran ' Edribuhon' comes from the Arabic root verb 'darab'. The Arabic word 'darab' has many different meanings including: beat or hit, leave, travel, form a coin, make, and other meanings. So, not necessarily the English word meaning in Quran is to beat or hit.

The evidences that ' Edribuhon' in Quran is not necessarily means to beat your wife or hit her are that:

• If it is meant by the Arabic word in Quran ' Edribuhon' to hit the wife, why in the same Quran verses Quran commands to live with wives in kindness and peace and dignity and tolerance.

God says in Quran, Muslims holy book:

" وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ ﴿٢١"

Meaning English Translation

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (21)"

[Quran, chapter 30, verse 21]

• Quran says if you hated your wife for any reason then be aware that you may hate them for some reasons while they are good for many other reasons so be kind to them and don't go for divorce unless you find it hopeless to continue.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا النِّسَاءَ كَرْهًا ۖ وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا ﴿١٩﴾

Meaning English Translation

"O you who believe! it is not lawful for you that you should take women as heritage against (their) will, and do not straiten them in order that you may take part of what you have given them, unless they are guilty of manifest indecency, and treat them kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it."

[Quran, chapter 4, verse 19]

• Quran says if you can't reach common understanding with your wife, select one from your family and your wife selects one from her family for arbitration and solving the problem.

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلَاحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا ﴿٣٥

English meaning translation

"And if you fear a breach between the two, then appoint judge from his people and a judge from her people; if they both desire agreement, Allah will effect harmony between them, surely Allah is Knowing, Aware. (35) "[Quran, chapter 4, verse 35]

• In other Quran verses, God commands the husband, in case of divorce, not to get back any from what was given to her on marriage and to separate with mutual respect and understanding.

وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمُ اسْتِبْدَالَ زَوْجٍ مَّكَانَ زَوْجٍ وَآتَيْتُمْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ قِنطَارًا فَلَا تَأْخُذُوا مِنْهُ شَيْئًا ۚ أَتَأْخُذُونَهُ بُهْتَانًا وَإِثْمًا مُّبِينًا ﴿٢٠﴾ وَكَيْفَ تَأْخُذُونَهُ وَقَدْ أَفْضَىٰ بَعْضُكُمْ إِلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَأَخَذْنَ مِنكُم مِّيثَاقًا غَلِيظًا ﴿٢١﴾

Meaning English translation:

"And if you wish to have (one) wife in place of another and you have given one of them a heap of gold, then take not from it anything; would you take it by slandering (her) and (doing her) manifest wrong? (20)"

[Quran, chapter 4, verse 20]

• Also, Islam gives the right to wife to seek divorce if she feels that no longer possible to continue in marriage with her husband. So, if beating or hitting wife is a rule how wife selects to continue with her husband.
• In the last prophet speech during his Hajj, he advised Muslims to be kind with their wives and with orphans.
• Prophet Muhammad, peace upon him, never insulted or beated any of his wives. It is believed by all Muslims that the prophet is their model and Guide in all his sayings, doings and practices.

In addition to the above, it is known that, generally, some women of some social classes, prefer to be treated by loud voices, or vigorous words, or beating and they may even enjoying beating.

Since Quran is the last God revelation to humanity and prophet Muhammad is his last messenger and prophet, God commands through His holy book Quran and Prophet Sunnah (prophet sayings, doings, and practices) should be applicable anytime and anywhere. Hence Quran interpretation should not be based on a single word meaning that may be suitable somewhere sometime but not suitable somewhere else or another time. Quran interpretation should be based on interpretation of all relevant Quran texts together.

Answer B

Wife beating is not allowed in Islam in any case!

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No, it doesn't.. its a sin to do so..

Islam is not harsh as people make it sound..

AnswerC

No, unless he tries the other ways:

34. Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great. [Meanings of the Glorious Quran, M.Picthall]

in the datail of this verse:

If a wife refused to respond to her husband's call for bed and insisted on disobeying his orders without reason, or if she used to get out of the house without taking his previous permission, her husband might admonish her, if not effective, he might banish her to their same bed apart, and if it all didn't do right, he might scourge her on condition that it would be light beating, just to show dissatisfaction.

Finally if at any stage the woman obeyed and things went good, the husband has then no right to proceed to the other stage.

But if all this didn't do good, the husband should then find a third party, one from his relatives, and another from her.

Good to mention that any other faults that the woman could do, other than the above mentioned, are not considered rebellion and don't apply the same way of treatmen, this is because marriage life is a love and mercy.

"...And of His signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo! herein indeed are portents for folk who reflect." [Meanings of the Glorious Quran, M.Picthall]

Answer 4

Answer:

No. The Prophet made it clear that a good Muslim does not even use verbal abuse with his wife and children. The verse which is used to justify striking a wife is simply misunderstood. Striking a wife with a blow that will leave any kind of mark - like a scratch or a bruise - is actually forbidden in Islam. That is based upon the sayings of the Prophet himself.

Answer 5

of course beating wife in the normal sense of beating is not allowed in Islam.

Quran says (Meaning English Translation): (Chapter 30, verse 21)And of His (God or Allah) signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.

This demonstrates that marriage in Islam means love, mercy, and affection. This doesn't match by allowing raping or beating in Islam.

Quran says also (Chapter 4, verse 34-35):Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. (34) And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Acquainted [with all things].

This means that if you fear arrogance from your wife, then to resolve this first advise her, then forsake her in bed, then finally strike her (if you find that this is the only way with her as some women tends to be beaten and feel happy with it). So, beating is not a normal attitude in treating your wife for four reasons:

1. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) had never beaten any of his wives. Following prophet practices (or Sunnah) by Muslims is compulsory.

2. marriage in Islam means love, mercy, and affection. This doesn't coincide with beating wife.

3. Quran teaching is that if you fear dissension between the husband and wife, send an arbitrator from his grand family and an arbitrator from her grand family. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them.

4. Beating wife is never allowed unless the wife culture and tendency requires the husband to go for it.

More Information:

The first and perhaps most important point to mention is that this view is based only upon the use of one word in chapter 4, verse 34 of The Quran shown below:

The men are supporters/maintainers of the women with what God preferred/bestowed on some of them over others and with what they spent of their money, so the righteous women are dutiful/obedient; guardians/protectors to the unseen with what God guarded/protected. And as for those women you fear their uprising/disloyalty, then you shall advise them, and (then) abandon them in the bed, and (then) idriboo them. If they obeyed you, then seek not against them a way; Truly, God is High, Great. [4:34]

And if you (authority) feared a rift between them two, then appoint a judge from his family and a judge from hers. If they both want to reconcile, then God will bring agreement between them. God is Knowledgeable, Expert. [4:35]

You can beat your wife as long as the stick you beat her with is not thicker than your thumb. Also avoid spilling blood. More detailed intructions are available in quran, wife beating is used to fine tune marriage and still in practice in 3rd world Islamic countries. Surat An-Nisa' [verse 34]

The Arabic word idriboo is commonly translated as hit/beat/strike, however the flaws with this understanding are as follows:

• The derivative idriboo is formed from one of the most multiple meaning and diversely used words (DaRaBa) in the Arabic language, and is used in several ways in The Quran itself.

• There is not one clear occurrence of this word meaning "beat" anywhere else in The Quran, and in almost all cases, this meaning is problematic or would not make sense.

• No Classical Arabic (the language The Quran is written in) dictionary gives the meaning of "beat" in a comparable example and none reference 4:34 at all.

• When The Quran uses this word to mean a literal/physical strike/hit, the preposition "bi" (with/by) is always used, but there is no such use in 4:34.

• This understanding causes internal contradictions within The Quran, and this is also probably why no commentator, past or present, uses The Quran itself to justify this view.

• There is no consensus amongst traditional commentators on the origin and interpretation of this verse, except on perhaps the basic points.

• If "beat/strike" is chosen, it would cause inconsistencies amongst Traditional Hadith (narrations) and Classical Arabic dictionaries, which show a variance in view.

• It contradicts the alleged reaction of prophet Muhammad to wife beating, in which he is reportedly to have found it unjust and said woman have the right to retaliate. The traditional story goes that he was over ruled by 4:34, apparently.

The evidence from The Quran suggests the correct meaning of the word in this case would be "cite" or "indicate" them to the authority, hence authority involvement in 4:35. This also fits in with its usage elsewhere with direct objects.

Answer 6

Actually this is not true Muslims are not the only ones. but just to tell you this is not allowed in Islam, we are REQUIRED to respect women.

" O mankind! We (God) have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honorable of you with God (Allah) is the pious. Verily, Allah (God) is All-Knowing and All-Aware"(Quran, surah 49, Verse 13)

BTW men who beat their wives are weak. I am a man from Bangladesh. 80% of the population is Muslim, in my country its forbidden to beat your wife.

Answer 7

No, Muslims are not allowed to do it. In Islam, Women are to be treated with great respect and love according to the Holy Quran. For example:

"O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them - except when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and Allah will bring about through it a great deal of good." [Noble Quran 4:19]

The verse clearly tells the women importance in the Society. So, if a Muslim man beats his wife, he will clearly face Allah's punishment in the day of Judgement. If any queries? Please do Ask again :)

Answer 8

Per Qur'an and prophet Muhammad teachings, Muslim men are not allowed to hurt their wives and are commanded to be patient and kind in treating them even if the wife gets nervous or furious.