Is it better to be friends before lovers because your boyfriend and you became lovers before friends and it seems like something's missing or that your relationship is unstable?

Answer 1

It would be wonderful if we could all be friends before we become lovers, but sometimes we meet someone, fall madly in love and go right for the target. LOL Even if this happens, friendship is a love relationship. This is what makes a good relationship work: Communicate well together. Talk over problems and come to the best solution you can. Learn to "agree to disagree" and be big enough to at least take part of the other partners opinion as your solution to your problem. Talk about your problems to each other and each of should "listen" which many people don't do. Have respect for your mate and expect it back. Work at knowing you can beat anything that comes up in life if you just stick together. Trusting in each other no matter what. Learning to joke and laugh with each other Having private time together, but also giving each other head space and also doing things with friends. Although we love our partners we don't want to be joined at the hip because the relationship will grow stale quickly. There are many more clues to a good relationship, but these are most of the important ones. Each couple has to work on it and there is no doubt about it, it takes both to make it work. Good luck Marcy