Is it common for a verbally abusive parent to continue the abuse after the child becomes an adult?

Answer 1

It is not common to verbally abuse your child if you had so fare in past. Humanbeings are social animal hence capable of improvemnt in their term. Had that been the scene,we wold have hardly developed from barbarianism of dark ages.

Answer 2

Yes it is. After all, what's changed? Abusive people are angry people for reasons only usually known to them. Sometimes parents don't get along, or sometimes they can actually be jealous of the child's youth and can reflect back on their own wishing they had done things differently, or wishing they weren't getting older. It appears it really bothers you and before you turn your back completely on your parent, try sitting down and quietly talk things out. Don't look at your parent as a parent, but as an individual. They are people too, and you just never know what is bothering them. They could be depressed and also, medications can cause mood changes. Be honest with yourself and ask yourself if it's really verbal abuse or just nagging and what could you have done better to help the situation out. Often parents get exasperated with their kids for not doing things they ask of them such as doing homework, getting good grades, watching out who they hang around with or date, or keeping their room clean to helping more around the house. That's nagging (and I don't blame him/her because there is no such thing as a free ride even if you are the child in the house.) If you can't come to some understanding then move away and give it a week or two (keep in contact with your parent once a week just to let them know you are OK because they really do care) and then perhaps try again and take them out for lunch. I call it the "circle of life." Parents often hate to see their kids walk out that door to try their wings of independence. They'll miss and worry about their children. They can also be having marriage problems, personal problems or just be depressed. Once you have been away from home there is a high possibility that you'll mature and they'll miss you so when you both get together you are on a more even keel. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy