It's normal and it's the thing to do. By staying in touch with the friends of the narcissist it still links you to the narcissist. Move on and start a new future. What friends? A true narcissist has no real loyal friends. They are known as supply. Those friends who are true to you will "self select" and will make their choice when you break up. However, if they want to maintain contact with the "narcissist" then you need to set them free. It just creates chaos in your life.
Because narcissists have a need to shame their victims. Additionally many have fixations about sex.
Victims of narcissists may end up in trouble with the police due to manipulative tactics employed by the narcissist, such as gaslighting or false accusations. The victim's emotional turmoil and confusion can lead them to react in ways that attract legal scrutiny. Additionally, narcissists often portray themselves as innocent and may involve authorities to maintain control or discredit the victim. As a result, the victim may find themselves in difficult situations that escalate and lead to police involvement.
Many times the victims of narcissists will blame themselves for the destruction of their relationship or for somehow being attracted to someone who is so obviously flawed. The simple reality is, even the narcissist can become quite competent at making someone else feel good for a while. Compulsive liars keep doing what they do because they get good at it and keep convincing everyone that they're telling the truth. It's the same with the narcissist. He/she can make their victims feel good about themselves... up to the point when the relationship is more certain, then the narcissist can show his/her true colors. It's hard to terminate a relationship. Even a destructive relationship like the one you describe. Once you've identified that the problem started with the narcissist, you can start to forgive yourself for reacting to what you've been through, and you can get started moving forward. No, there is nothing wrong with you. But if you keep it up after you've identified the problem, you have nobody to blame but yourself. Now go get involved with a support group and start repairing your life.
About 80,000 people die of relationship abuse a year.
victimology
The three types of victims are primary, secondary, and tertiary victims. Primary victims are those who directly experience a crime or traumatic event. Secondary victims are individuals who are indirectly affected, such as family members or friends of the primary victim. Tertiary victims are broader community members who may be impacted by the effects of the crime or trauma on the primary and secondary victims.
The person being abused and any children who are there to witness it are victims.
Kennedy himself and of course his family and friends.
When you are living with a person that is either physically or mentally abusing you (narcissists are game-players and mind-benders) then the mate that got away needs to go for counseling because the narcissist never will. Narcissists brain-wash their victims. Some victims are slightly abused because they leave the relationship earlier on, while others have put up with it for years and never knew what was wrong with their mate. It isn't important we label the person hurting us, but it's important one gets away from it. Rule of thumb ... when someone hurts you or makes you feel terrible most of the time rather than peaceful or happy it's time to move on! If you love someone you don't make an effort to play games or hurt them. None of us are perfect and we've certainly hurt our mates on occasion (vice-versa for them) but the difference is we say we are sorry and try to rectify what we have done. ANYONE who has been in an abusive relationship needs counseling.
Car crash victims can get support from family, friends, or from professional people. This can be through a referral from your doctor, or by contacting a company, that deals with bereavement or injury, direct
People are killed much more often by someone they know.
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